Betty Dodson with Carlin Ross

Better Orgasms. Better World.

• Login
• Join

Search this site:

Betty

For nearly three years I have been having an affair with a woman who is now 55 and postmenopausal. We are lucky enough to get a few hours together here and there; I can say she always has at least ten orgasms and I am sure she has fifty sometimes. We have only counted twice. Once, two years ago, I had her make a mark on a notepad every time she came, and at the end of two hours there were twenty one marks on the paper. Recently I counted silently each orgasmic "event," where some events are probably several orgasms strung together but I counted them as one. I counted twenty six of these in an hour. Sometimes we get four hours together, and we do not maintain that pace but I am sure she passes fifty many times. Even parked along the road playing with each other she might come five to ten times in fifteen minutes.

Until our affair she says she typically had one O during sex, and that was the end of it, though she has had multiple orgasms a few times in her life. We don't know if she is like this because of menopause, if she always had the potential but never found a guy who knew what to do, or if it is something magical about us as a couple. She had approximately a hundred partners in high school and college, mostly one-night stands, and has had four or five long-term lovers. She has been married for thirty years.

When she masturbates she usually stops after one. Early in our affair she explained to me how her parts worked, as she had discovered through her own exploration, and that was my starting-point for learning about her. I diddle her with my fingers and go down on her for long stretches, and have found places that trigger orgasm on her that she never knew about, plus I use techniques that she never tried. She also comes easily through straight in-and-out intercourse, even without any real impact between my pubic bone and her clit (though that works, too). With her legs over my shoulders I'll drive into her like a freight train, deep and hard, hammering her clitoris and her "deep spot," and she will come nearly continuously until she can't take it any more. My penis is exactly average, maybe a little on the thick side but no one in my sixty years has ever commented on it one way or the other, and I have been with a couple hundred women myself (I am a guitar player, and had been faithfully married for 21 years). Also, she tends to be very wet when we are together, I have seen her literally leave a puddle on a picnic bench, even with blue jeans on, after we had been sitting and kissing and talking. Sometimes if she is wearing a skirt she puts a towel on her car seat so she does not stain the skirt when she comes to see me or when we go somewhere. She does not orgasm in random or unusual situations, like someone with PSAS, it is only in a sexual context, though she can come from rubbing her legs together when we are in the middle of an exciting situation in bed and at least once she came simply from the contagious excitement of my orgasm as she jacked me off (her legs may have rubbed together). She often ejaculates once to three times during a three-hour session, though not always.

It may be relevant that since the beginning we have pushed our sexual frontiers. She had a very vanilla background and was hesitant to try spanking, bondage, role-playing, fucking me with a strap-on, peeing on each other, tickling, anal sex -- even sucking her toes was a breakthrough! She calls me her "relentless beast" and resists nearly every new development, but has found she likes a lot of new things. We have a rule we call "goosey-gander," that I will not do anything to her that I would not let her do to me - and sometimes the reversal is even more fun! She has always enjoyed sex in semi-public places such as playgrounds, in the car, on my desk at work, in the woods, and we have had many adventures, but those are usually hurried and do not result in an astronomical number of O's. In our first couple of months together I was impotent and concentrated on manual and oral techniques with modest success, and when I suddenly was able to have intercourse with her (don't know what changed) she had three orgasms the first time. Over the next few months we learned how to move together, how to pace ourselves; she has also learned to do things to me with her mouth and hands that give me more pleasure than I ever dreamed of, and we often go three or four hours without stopping.

I must say, I am in awe of her. Our sex is the most fun I have ever had in my life and she is a wonderful friend, as well. I love lighting her fuses and being in the presence of her beautiful explosions. I feel like the luckiest guy in the world.

Saint Montgomery

Thanks Saint Montgomery for you detailed description of a very unusual sex life we can all envy. I wish every 55 year old woman and 60 year old man could enjoy such sexual abundance, but alas, most of us are getting in our one, two or three O's a week and grateful at that.

 I'd love to see you two in action. How about putting on masks to be anonymous and sending me a video of two lively seniors having some first rate sex. You could be the poster couple for the sexual joys of growing older. Or, if you are ever in NYC do give me a call and let me observe. . . for the sake of sex education of course. You'd think an old sexologist like me whose been through the sexual revolution has seen it all. . . far from it. I learn something new almost every day and I'm loving it.

Dear Betty,

I am another 'older woman' who enjoys constant and increasingly stronger orgasms during each session. I am postmenopausal (64) and 8 years post breast cancer. It was because of the increased vaginal dryness after my body was slammed into menopause that I discovered the benefits of the Magic Wand in increasing my lubrication. It was as if my sexual clock was turned back 20 years. My husband's and my sexual enjoyment increased both in intensity and depth. Since then, orgasms both clitoral and vaginal (G spot) increased and became stronger and lasted longer. Forty to fifty orgasms per session are the norm and more than I experienced in my sexual prime.

Our sessions are not 2 to 4 hours as has been descirbed by the two men who have written on this subject but an hour to an hour and a half is not uncommon. Of course, I am completely exhausted when we are done. When I was younger, we didn't last that long.

When so many older woman loose their sexual enjoyment for whatever reason....here is one who has not.

mbf

dear Betty
in my experience during 20 years of marriage life it is very difficult to find out our wife achieve real orgasm .
she had 2 or three times real orgasm as a mad lady this happen rarely and it related to condition of time atmosphere and husband activity during sex life although limited orgasm offer many times in bed and that is great gift of god to us

 I am only 42, my partners have always had to be younger then me because of my not feeling satisfied feelings sometimes. I have multiples over and over, it doesn't take much by clitoris, but vaginal are my best! And yes in my 20's having 20 or so per session was pretty normal for me. As I have gotten older they are climbing and getting intensified! I have to have like 3 a day and I stay pretty clear and my body feels no pain. But when Im with my partner who is 29-I have a hard time stopping? Until they are about ready to have a cardiac arrest I have to back off.  I remember when I had my 2nd child at 26, it was so bizarre. I could be walking in the grocery store, at work where ever and have the urge come over me like a freight train!! My face would get warm, my ears would get red and yes I could have an orgasm without even trying in public. This went on for about 2 years after her birth, it has slowed down on the public thing. But I think I have gained some control over it.  I thought for years I was normal, til I spoke to so many ladies that had never even had one, let alone multiples or like me. So, I just never spoke about it to other peers, thinking I might be nuts or something. Tried talking to my mother she just laughed at me and said I was one of the lucky ones and be happy about it. Just wanted to clarify this story above is very real and we do exist!!!