Betty Dodson with Carlin Ross

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Hello Ms. Dodson,

I've turned 19 at the beginning of this month. About 3 weeks ago, I met this new girl. We haven't had sex yet, so this will be the best time for me to ask this...My penis size is of pretty good proportions. It's 7 1/2" long and almost 6" around. Would this size hurt the average woman during intercourse?

Dear B,

I love it that a man has finally asked this question: If your new girlfriend has never experienced vaginal penetration, the answer is yes, you are too big for a virgin girl. Start by talking about your past experiences. Take some time to get to know each others sexual histories. A lot of kissing and fingering is a great way to begin. I remember the nights I sat in Bob's parked car making out while he very slowly moved his hand down to my vulva. Then he would finger my clitty oh so very slowly, and very gradually penetrate my vagina with his finger. Heavenly! Make sure your fingers are smooth and nails filed down. See your hands as organs of pleasure before you introduce your big penis. Plenty of lubrication and communication is the way to go. She's a lucky girl to have a thoughtful young man like you.

If it turns out that she's more experienced and has had penetration sex before and wants you, just go slow. Let her determine when she wants to take you inside and how deep. One thing that feels fantastic is when a man keeps the head of his dick just at the vaginal opening without pushing in. After a while, she will want more of you and she'll let you know by pulling you in closer. Later on, you can add soft clitoral stimulation with a moistened finger while you are fucking. At some point, you can encourage her to do her own clitoris and then she will have the best of both worlds. Enjoy!

Dr. Betty