Betty Dodson with Carlin Ross

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Hi Betty,

I recently started having sex almost 2 months ago, the problem i have is that sometimes he will penetrate so hard that it feels like it is hitting my stomach, like a wall, and i thought that maybe if i relax it would start to feel good, but when i did relax i felt like i was going to faint. (not trying to brag here but my boyfriend has a big dick) is there something im doing wrong, is my vagina too small, i just need your help.

Thanks :)

Dear S,

STOP! Do not let him bang into your vagina like it's made of steel while he assumes it will just naturally accommodate his big dick. If both of you are that uninformed about partner sex you must get information and instructions from a girlfriend or someone who is more knowledgeable. It's up to you to let him know what does and DOES NOT feel good. Otherwise you will remain a victim of society's sexual ignorance and suffer pain instead of pleasure.

A woman's vagina will increase in length when she is really turned and orgasmic. After plenty of direct clitoral stimulation her uterus lifts allowing for deeper penetration. But all forms of penetration must be done slow and thoughtfully and always with additional lubrication. Any man with a big penis needs to have the good sense to get some information other than watching porn before he plows into a young woman's body. I suggest he call Eric Amaranth, my protege 646/229-8290. Or you can email him at eric@dodsonandross.com. You both need to get some much needed sexual guidance.

Dr. Betty