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Is Anal Penetration For a Guy Similar to Vaginal Penetration For a Woman?

Wed, 01/20/2010 - 15:03
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty--

I have a question I'm hoping you can answer. I have always been a heterosexual male, but I have also always been curious about what the sexual experience is like for a woman. Obviously, some acts are identical--manual stimulation, oral sex, and (passive) anal intercourse are available to both. However, vaginal intercourse is not. So one must be contented with anal intercourse.

My question is this: Is anal intercourse sufficiently similar in sensation and experience, that one could say one has experienced what (vaginal) sexual intercourse is like from a woman's point of view? If so, I would be interested in trying it.

I am wondering, if I become bisexual, will it be difficult to find female partners who accept this?

Thank you very much.

--T

Dear T,

I applaud you for asking this question. I have always thought if more men could experience anal penetration they would be better at entering a vagina or another persons anus. Too many men plunge in like there's not a moment to spare in case she changes her mind!

Experiencing anal penetration would be similar to vaginal penetration to a degree. You would want to be sexually aroused, use plenty of lube and go slow. This is true for both orifices and being aware of the pelvic floor muscles would also help. Using the PC muscle while stimulating both primary sex organs: penis and clitoris at the same time penetration is taking place is my personal preference.

To experience anal penetration does not require having sex with a man although I support bisexuality. I always recommend trying a new sexual technique on yourself first so get an anal dildo or butplug and begin to experiment. Or your girlfriend can get a dildo and penetrate you. If you do become bisexual just make sure you play safe by using condoms. Personally, I don't believe it's anyone's business whether someone is straight, bi or gay. It's up to each individual to share this information or not. Have fun!

Dr. Betty

Liberating women one orgasm at a time

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Wed, 01/20/2010 - 15:38
William (not verified)

I've had many a hang up on this, Anal I mean. There are so many silly "rules" about men and sexuality its a wonder we are able or allowed to feel pleasure at all. I've been Bi my whole life but hidden and even shamed my self for it for well over a decade. I'm glad to see...what see what appears to be, men asking more and exploring more. Anal sex for men, in my experience can be intense, highly pleasurable and even multi-orgasmic. Still your only real hangup will be the one in your head. I recommend also that you start slow and make sure to remind your self that your "having fun". Doing some relaxing ahead of time will go a long way. Soft music, a warm shower/bath or even some meditation before hand will do wonders for your over all experience. Also, remember to moan. I can't speak for all men, but I know some are conscientious about how they sound. This can make a BIG difference too!

Side note: I feel bad for Dr.Betty having to be sure she touches every single base so as not to offend any one group. I hope its appreciated lol.

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Wed, 01/20/2010 - 16:28
Betty Dodson

 

 William Darling,

Please don't feel sorry for me. I've always been an equal opportunity offender. You don't spend the better part of a lifetime discussing the importance of masturbation and at the same time walk on eggs making sure to please everyone. It's been my experience that the process of coming out of whatever sexual closet we inhabit is always liberating. Yours is bisexuality. Mine was preferring sex with myself. Really! Are they all that different?

Dr. Betty

Want some anal? Ask your partner?

Wed, 01/20/2010 - 18:35
ric

Like "T" I am a curious hetero (maybe with Bi tendencies) but wanted to see how it would feet for someone to penetrate me.

The I purchased a strap-on harness and dildo at a sex shop and surprised my woman with it one Valentine's Day and told her she was now equipped to do another woman, which she has fantasied about, then I added: How about doing me!

That idea was met with what seemed like resistance, but in fact she later told me she was actually turned on by the kinky thought of it all.

We went away on a sexy holiday soon after and I prepared for a sexy night of very light BDSM and of course my woman putting on the strap-on. I first gave myself a couple of enemas to clean myself, made sure she was sufficiently aroused and then turned on the video camera. Then I asked her if she'd like to fuck me.

She didn't say much but proceeded to put on the harness. I can't tell what a turn-on it was to see her with a cock. I still look at  video from time to time. She tied my hands and arms up and bent me over the edge of the bed and lubed me up and slowly penetrated me, asking me if it hurt. I kept telling her no. The she slid in all the way and slowly thrust in and out of me, pushing and pausing when her "cock" was deepest. I could feel her fingernails digging into me as she grabbed my ass with both hands.

Turning around I could see her aroused concentration as she looked down and focussed on the dildo sliding in and out.

It was a very erotic experience for both of us but I discovered that the physical sensation of anal penetration, though not painful, was for me, not highly stimulating per se. It was the being fucked that was so different and kinky and arousing.

She has fucked me a few times since but the initial eroticism, newness and  excitement has faded a bit. Nevertheless, anytime she wants to, my ass is ready.

The first time was indeed the best and kinkiest, so I do recommend trying it if you are curious about anal sex.

Hope this helps.

RicWink

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