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Every Child is a Sexual Being

Mon, 11/09/2009 - 15:29
Submitted by Betty Dodson

After hearing the story of the 4 year old who was beaten to death for "touching himself", I had to respond. 

Childhood sexuality is a fact of everyone's life. Like it or not all you sex fearing parents who punish your children for an act that is as natural as eating! Shame on all of you! Even though you believe it is for your child's sake, inhibiting masturbation is the first blow of sexual repression that leaves a permanent scar on every child's ability to enjoy adult sexuality. I know because after forty some years of dealing with women's sex problems, especially the inability to enjoy orgasm, each and everyone has a similar story: Either they were punished for touching themselves or they have no memory of childhood masturbation due to the sexual repression fostered by the family and supported by most organized religions that then becomes the law of the land. This also affects a teacher's ability to impart any kind of decent sex information or offer any sex education except for the story of procreation.

Is it any wonder we are a nation of pre-orgasmic women and fast ejaculating men. Those quick comes are not the same thing as enjoying an orgasm, so frigid is a word we can now use for pre-mature ejaculating men. However, we Americans excel when it comes to violence, the opposite of pleasure. We know how to wage wars, bomb the shit out of innocent people and make bigger and better war machines that profit a few and kill many. Yet we call ourselves a "Christian Nation." God bless America and all that other crap! Until this pitiful sexually ignorant country of ours can accept masturbation as the foundation for all of human sexuality, we will remain in the dark age of sexual expression.

My hope is that enlightened parents and educators will begin to speak out and challenge America's denial of the erotic feelings in children. Human sexuality begins in the womb and is present at birth. Babies, toddlers, and children are in the ongoing process of developing their sexuality. We need to better understand the nuances of this sexual development, including the complex hormonal activity that affects our physical, mental and emotional states. Once we can fully embrace all the aspects of sexual expression, especially childhood sexuality, people will turn out to be happier adults. All the positive energy released by sexually healthy people having consistent orgasms will become the source that feeds the well of human kindness, generosity and compassion.

Liberating women one orgasm at a time

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Mon, 11/09/2009 - 20:20
mssaigon73

Thank you Betty for responding. once I read this article I knew you and Carlin were the ones to help.

Well behaved women,rarely make history.

Thank you!!!

Thu, 03/11/2010 - 18:25
Cumon82 (not verified)

Thank you for discussing childhood masturbation, both for the sake of the children you may save from being punished and women like me who thought we were freaks for having orgasms at a young age. I have had orgasms from masturbation for as long as I can remember (probably age 3?) and have only heard of a handful of other people like me: the occasional freak in a sex article. Fortunately, I was never punished for this behavior that I can remember, but it seemed that every year I grew older I became more ashamed of my behavior since of course I understood that touching oneself "down there" was taboo. I even remember trying to "quit" masturbating around age nine and was successful for several months. I was afraid that I was going to hurt myself somehow or that I was strange and perverted. Luckily, my attitude is generally much healthier toward sex and masturbation today, but until reading your articles and seeing the documentary I had no idea that it's fairly common for children to not only touch themselves, but to actually reach orgasm. Before I felt like a freak, but now I think my lifelong masturbation has actually helped me with partners since I understand my body very well and I'm not afraid to get what I want. No fake orgasms here! So thank you again for expanding my understanding and helping me to rid myself of the last bit of shame.

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