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CINEMATIC MISREPRESENTATION OF FEMALE PLEASURE PERPETUATING MYTH OF THE VAGINAL ORGASM

Carlin, I couldn't agree with you more about Hollywood and romantic comedies being at fault, though all movie genres and industries do this. European art cinema is no exception.

about sex education / information and lack thereof, please pass this link on to anyone who may enjoy it, and/or anyone who needs it:

http://blog.ted.com/2009/12/cindy_gallop_ma.php

not only the porn industry is at fault, but also sex scenes in "regular" cinema.

the depiction of instantaneous-female-orgasm-at-the-moment-of-penetration-by-penis-ABRACADABRA! especially drives me crazy. this is what a certain spectacular 80-year old clitoris-warrior calls "cock in the hole" bullshit.

just recently i watched an otherwise good French film, in which there is repeated vaginal intercourse between the two main characters. penile-vaginal penetration is the only sex act depicted, the lovers both have both their arms wrapped around each other at all times - and guess what, not only does the male protagonist cum every time, but the female character announces time and again, after like 5 seconds with neither fancy coital alignment technique body positioning nor manual or other clitoral stimulation, "i came three times!" like hell you did honey.  

 i am so sick of this shit. the actual woman is an actress, so she's allowed to fake it for a fiction film - she's acting - but her character is not faking it when she announces this. so - yet another magically spontaneously orgasmic female character we can all have fun not living up to! we must assume the sex acts depicted in the film are to be understood metaphorically for the psychological dynamic they portray, because otherwise that is such a criminal example of misrepresentation of basic human female anatomy, that i just had a spontaneous rage-gasm (whaddaya know, no hands).

(disclaimer: i know it's possible, but it's rare; and for how rare it is, it is extremely disproportionately represented in media.)

Women need not always keep their mouths shut and their wombs open.

- Emma Goldman

If a man takes his time and uses ALL his tools a vibrator shouldn't be necessary. Unfortunately most men don't take the time to stimulate their partner to the point where she has an orgasm or several before his penetrates and gets his jollies off. I prefer to lay on my back and let the woman get on top of me so I can lick and suck her clit while she plays with my penis and testicles until she feels like she needs my penis in her, it should be her choice. It's also her choice if I come into her vagina or her mouth or between her tits or somewhere else.

http://www.metacafe.com/watch/2839835/boy/

It's a manual orgasm one, yes it's under the sheets but still a good depiction.

And with the age difference it's something unusual for Hollywood

What continues to astonish me is that men and women don't talk some of these issues through (when not in bed/having sex) so that each gets to know the other's body/reactions/likes/needs and so-on. What is and isn't necessary (techniques etc) is not the whole point, communication in all its forms is, for me, the sexiest aspect of a relationship.

I've been lucky inasmuch as I've learn't loads and loads from every relationship and I'm sure that has had a beneficial effect on my current relationship in which we say less and less and communicate more and more - how good is that?!

As always, great advice from this video ,

best wishes,

Chu

Everything cinematic is designed to please the male ego - a flick begins with a girl pleasing herself with a toy and suddenly a male walks in and 'rescues' her with his cock. Let guys live in their dream world.
Before vibrators our mothers used the laundry-brator, a trick I inherited after catching mom doing it. She was slightly? embarassed when I walked in on her but probably figured I was too young (age ten) to understand.
I still can't resist that habit of humping the washer during spin cycle. And I know it's a fairly common practice 'cause others have fessed-up to it; and I once spotted a uni classmate enjoying the thrill while in the dorm laundromat washing a load.
After apparent climaxing she noticed my gaze, we exchanged smiles, and I gave her a thumbs up. Of course, that happened many years ago. I presume she's still enjoying the 'spin thrill'. It's habitual.
Men have yet to learn that women get along very well without male penetration.