Betty Dodson with Carlin Ross

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I know what you are saying about the clitoris being only there for pleasure, but I guess the male glans is really there just for pleasure as well. right?

I am definitely jealous of everyone who gets to see Carlin's ass (and her sexual energy), anyways! :p

Love you guys! Now, if only it wasn't such a long wait till NEXT friday! :p

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23 - M - Critical Relativist and Feminist (Equalist) - Canada

I disagree that the vaginal orgasm is a complete myth. I've had them since I've been sexually active (17 years). There is no guarantee though, I don't have them consistently-- everything depends on the partner, the position, my excitement level, etc. I have had them pre & post clit orgasm and without any clit orgasm.

While I'm certain clit stim is always involved, the orgasm sensations are distinct, and feel very different. I can not have more than one clit orgasm in a row, it's too much stimulation and I don't enjoy it, but the vag orgasms can be multiple and separate or blend into one another. Also, my cervix will only contract and pulse after a vag orgasm, no matter how intense a clit one is.

Still, I think clit orgasms are the best bet to get off and waiting around only for a vag one is a waste of time, but that doesn't mean it can't happen. My absolute favorite scenario for getting off is: a clit orgasm via vibrator, accompanied by both penile penetration and nipple stimulation, followed by multiple vag orgasms, and my husband cumming along with me. Though it rarely works out this way, I'm blissed out and on cloud nine when it does. So, I can attest that this white whale does exist and some women actually do discover it in their lifetimes. However, no one should feel inadequate if they’ve never had a vag orgasm because they aren’t guaranteed and I believe any orgasm can be a good one, no matter how you get there. Have fun and enjoy your clit!

I've been having sex for a couple of months now with my new girlfriend...every time I make her orgasm she tells me, and she also tells me when she didn't orgasm

The other day I was penetrating doggy style with no stimulation of her clit, and I hit this spot (the cul-de-sac) for a little while, and she orgasmed. She told me so, and as I mentioned, she's very straight forward about whether she had an orgasm or not.

I wrote a blog about this "vaginal orgasm" yesterday...let me know what you think

"How to Make a Woman Orgasm through Deeper Penetration; Cul-De-Sac Orgasms"

Vaginal orgasms do occur but are not an essential feature of intercourse. The Freudian myth that Koedt was dispelling was that clitoral orgasms were an immature form of a deeper more satisfying vaginal orgasm that could only be achieved during sex. During the 1960's there was an emphasis on achieving a simultaneous orgasms as a way of complete sexual fulfilment. A male orgasm is essential to sexual reproduction, the same is not true of a female who has a choice of sexual stimulations. If the purpose of sex is for pleasure only then the clitoris is the most immediate source of stimulation. However, as any brief examination of porn sites will show, prolonged vaginal stimulation can lead to orgasms but do take longer to achieve. What has been lost in all these discussions is the purpose of sex in individuals' lives. What Koedt did was to destroy the notion that any female not achieving a vaginal orgasm was frigid, inadequate and less of a person as a result. She did by utilising the greater knowledge of female biology which had become available at that time. It can hardly be said these days that anyone should be as ignorant as previous generations appear to have been on such matters.