The Best Use of Your Vibrator

Mon, 01/23/2017 - 07:53
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Teaching is about repetition so here I go again saying the same thing once more with different words. There seems to be no “common sense” when it comes to women’s orgasms because most of us demand instant success the American way…add hot water and stir. Or we are naturally angry for not being taught how to experience sexual pleasure in the first place while our male partners ejaculate every time. It’s no wonder you’re mad, confused and wondering “What wrong with me?”

All Women Should be Acknowledged & Supported by Feminism

Thu, 01/19/2017 - 09:11
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Trump's inauguration will prove one of the most surreal moments in American history. The system has elected the ultimate symbol of white privilege, misogyny, and corporate greed. The only thing that's keeping me together - besides the amazing twitter commentary on each of Donald's tweets - is the Women's March.

Almost 50 & Preorgasmic

Wed, 01/18/2017 - 08:02
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Betty,

I am nearing 50 and unable to fully orgasm, if I am at all. I have been using a hitachi magic wand which I have to cram into my clitoris in order to feel some kind of build up, which then has some kind of end to it. It is nothing like what other people have described to me. I feel nothing when I use my hand. Never have. I am not comfortable with men going down on me because oddly, it feels too sensitive or just uncomfortable. So is it possible that I simply have a clitoris that feels very little? I'm far more excited by penetration and so I wonder if my nerves are concentrated in my vagina more than in my clit.

Marking Martin Luther King Day

Mon, 01/16/2017 - 09:29
Submitted by Carlin Ross

It's MLK weekend and it's not lost on any one of us exactly who is in the White House and how his administration feels about minorities (and women). His attacks on John Lewis are just the icing on cake. We've entered an era where nothing is sacred and all are suspect.

The question that keeps rolling through my mind is "how did we get here?" Obama was a great president who saved our auto industry, the economy - reformed our health care system - didn't get caught in any sexual or political scandal. Hillary won the popular vote. Most Americans are moderates. What is the underlying cancer eating this country alive?

My Clitoral Hood is Creased

Sun, 01/15/2017 - 07:59
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Betty,

I have a question about my clitoral hood. Between my clitoral hood and clitoris there's what looks like another fold of skin. I have looked it up online and don't seem to find anything about it. It's almost like the clitoral hood is creased. I have had my labia reduced before because they were so long but they are still pretty long.

Could that have something to do with it?

Dear C,

The fact that you've had labiaplasty indicates you are obsessively concerned about the appearance of your vulva. Yes, "Between my clitoral hood and clitoris there's what looks like another fold of skin" That's most likely what it is. So get over yourself and stop obsessing about how your poor pussy looks.

Beautiful Reproductive Drawings

Fri, 01/13/2017 - 08:56
Submitted by Carlin Ross

I just love the whimsical quality of this drawing.

If it was drawn today, there would have been a "g-spot" and possibly a "deep-spot".  We have so much to learn about female sexual response. 

Here's to future research, education and artistic renderings of our bodies and orgasmic response.

Maturbating Makes Me Want to Pee

Thu, 01/12/2017 - 09:04
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Betty and Carlin!

So much love for this website and I love your videos!

So to give you a little background, I am 22 years old and I have been masturbating since I was a child. I always struggled with reaching orgasm because.. it made me want to pee. I've googled this and some say that it might be a "squirting orgasm" and all that jazz but I don't really have orgasms, or rather, they're super small. (I just bought myself a Magic Wand and have been using it everyday since so I doubt that will be a problem any longer! HA HA!!)

Golden Globes Made Me Proud to be a Woman

Mon, 01/09/2017 - 13:22
Submitted by Carlin Ross

I'm not a huge fan of award shows and I'm definitely not a star fucker but I have to admit that watching the red carpet pics and clips from last night's Golden Globes made me proud to be a woman.

Here is Evan Rachel Wood in a tux - just perfection.  Fuck the gowns she looks so current and so sexy.  We had Lola Kirke on the red carpet in a strapless dress with obvious armpit hair and a "fuck Paul Ryan" button and then there was Meryl's speech.  

She echoed everything I'm been feeling. It is up to the Press to hold those in power accountable.  I feel a new wave of feminism starting to swell:

Am I a Lesbian or Bisexual?

Sun, 01/08/2017 - 07:54
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr. Betty,

I am 17 years old and I'm in a relationship with my girlfriend, although I've always been in romantic relationships with boys, until now. One thing I know for sure is I've always been attracted to women (I've always fantisized about girls bodies) but I don't know if I'm attracted to boys at all: I've never had a sexual experience, encounter or relationship with a man (not because I don't want to, I just haven't had the opportunity) and I think penises are gross and they scare me.

I've read this is normal since I've never had sex with a man and when the time comes I'll get used to it. I'm desperate to know my sexuality because I don't know what to tell people when they ask me and want to label me.

Dear J,

Promoting the Women's Rights March with the Male Gender Sign

Thu, 01/05/2017 - 12:25
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Twitter was a buzz over the latest cover for the Washington Post Express.  I'm sure someone got fired but what's crazy is that no one realized that they were using the male gender symbol to promote the Women's Rights March.  You'd imagine that a cover has layers of review and oversight.

I think this fuck up says alot about the current state of feminism.  Forget about knowing what's important to most women or the feminist  agenda - they can't even get the symbol for "woman" right.  Fucking pathetic.

My Views as Life Grows Shorter

Wed, 01/04/2017 - 08:27
Submitted by Betty Dodson
Original Drawing Betty Dodson

I’ve been designing my end game as anyone who has followed my blog knows. You would be surprised how many respond with an image of eternal life and I’m being rather morbid to speak of it ending. Yet it does. As I’ve designed how I have sex how could I not design my death? I consider the true measure of a person’s success is how they end up in old age.

I remember Mother did not want to end up in a nursing home where her oldest sister was. For the last 12 years of Aunt Mae’s life she was in a wheelchair with cancer slowly eating away her upper lip. All she wanted to eat was the desserts they served as she craved sugar to feed her cancer. It was a slow boring death with just my Mother visiting her once a month.

Why Isn't Scarlett Johansson the "Highest Paid" Actor??

Sat, 12/31/2016 - 15:14
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Forbes released their top-grossing actor list and, for the first time, a woman - Scarlett Johansson - topped the list at $1.2B in ticket sales (thanks to her role as Black Widow). 

At first glance, you'd think that Scarlet smashed though that Hollywood glass ceiling but "grossing" the most amount in ticket sales doesn't mean that you got equal pay.  The highest "paid" actors in 2016 were Dwayne Johnson, Jackie Chan and Matt Damon.  Only two women made it into the top ten paid actors: Jennifer Lawrence and Melissa McCarthy.

I Feel Pressure But Not Pleasure

Sat, 12/31/2016 - 15:02
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr. Betty,

I'm an 18 year old girl who likes girls. I am currently in a long-term relationship but have never orgasmed during intercourse. I feel pressure occasionally but never any pleasure. Touching my clitorus and penetration both just feel like pressure, no sensation at all. I have tried masturbation since I was in middle school or so (maybe a little sooner) with the same results, no sensation.

The Earliest Rituals were Connected to a Woman's Monthly Bleeding

Thu, 12/29/2016 - 09:49
Submitted by Carlin Ross

I love Chanel Baran's photography because she captures the sacred and reminds us that our bodies are purposeful and divine. 

Menstruation is a powerful moment and I missed bleeding for two years while I was pregnant then nursing a newborn.  When I finally got my period again, I felt more powerful.  This is one of my favorite images from her series on menses.

I Need to Practice Delaying Ejaculation. Should I Cheat or Masturbate?

Thu, 12/29/2016 - 09:03
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty,

Throughout my 18 year marriage with my wife I've been a premature ejaculator (it's been really hard for both of us). The thing is is that I get turned on so quickly (every time I embrace my wife and give her a kiss there's a stirring in my pants - I never have a cuddle without becoming erect (and it's embarrassing to be honest - perhaps it would be less so if I could avoid cumming after 1 or 2 minutes inside her).

I have found that using a delay cream helps and makes sex last a lot longer and much more enjoyable.