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Is My Hymen Still Intact After Tampons?

Mon, 01/30/2017 - 08:40
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hello Betty,

So I am trying to find out if my hymen is still intact I took some pictures but I am still unsure, as I can't see the opening but I can feel it, I stopped using tampons and have not had sex however when I try to spread the minora labia especially going down to the perineum it feels like am pulling or stretching something and I feel kind of sore after wards even with my legs wide open.Thank you for your time your feedback is well anticipated and appreciated.

P.S Tampons did hurt the first two times and they did hurt a little less every other time especially taking them out could you advise me please.

Dear R,

I Should Feel Guilty For Wanting More…

Mon, 01/30/2017 - 07:54
Submitted by Amy W

It’s not easy to unmask yourself. To choose the fire of truth and admit to failure, to fling yourself blindly off the cliff not knowing what lies below. But the alternative, the façade of wholeness and stability now felt suffocating. Unbearable. Like a too tight shirt in the stifling heat of summer. Can’t breathe. Here’s Part 1 of my own unmasking.

It’s hard to come to terms with.

In the Circle There Were No Countries

Fri, 01/27/2017 - 07:29
Submitted by fabiola

It’s been more than a month since the last Bodysex and I hadn’t been able to write. It’s been happening so much in my head and my feelings that it took me all this time to settle.

Every day I wake up more disappointed that the last day. Living in the US right now, surrounded by all the political changes, being not only a Woman, but a Mexican Woman, makes me scared to what’s going to happen to my gender, to my people. Not only Mexicans or immigrants living in the US will be affected, my country depends so much on US economy and politics (consequence of a terrible government) that right now everything feels to be collapsing and I’m afraid.

I Want to be Slutty But My Vagina Won't Let Me

Tue, 01/24/2017 - 08:57
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hello!

First of all I would like to preface my question with an enormous thanks to you and Carlin for all the passion, knowledge and dedication you put into your work. To have a resource of this immeasurable quality is invaluable to me and I hope that your message will continue to spread!

I am writing because I value your opinion most of all and am unsure of how to proceed. Forgive me for all the details but I want to be comprehensive.

I am a 22-year-old female. I have been self-sexual since the first onset of puberty at 10 or 11 years old.

Loving the Glitoris

Tue, 01/24/2017 - 07:58
Submitted by Carlin Ross

This is Australian artist Alli Sebastian Wolf with her Glitoris. I love how the glans is prominently represented and all the veins in the bulbs. She's been on stage with Amanda Palmer and even the Guardian featured this pic with top ten facts about the clitoris.

Finally, our sex organ is going mainstream.

The Best Use of Your Vibrator

Mon, 01/23/2017 - 07:53
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Teaching is about repetition so here I go again saying the same thing once more with different words. There seems to be no “common sense” when it comes to women’s orgasms because most of us demand instant success the American way…add hot water and stir. Or we are naturally angry for not being taught how to experience sexual pleasure in the first place while our male partners ejaculate every time. It’s no wonder you’re mad, confused and wondering “What wrong with me?”

All Women Should be Acknowledged & Supported by Feminism

Thu, 01/19/2017 - 09:11
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Trump's inauguration will prove one of the most surreal moments in American history. The system has elected the ultimate symbol of white privilege, misogyny, and corporate greed. The only thing that's keeping me together - besides the amazing twitter commentary on each of Donald's tweets - is the Women's March.

Almost 50 & Preorgasmic

Wed, 01/18/2017 - 08:02
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Betty,

I am nearing 50 and unable to fully orgasm, if I am at all. I have been using a hitachi magic wand which I have to cram into my clitoris in order to feel some kind of build up, which then has some kind of end to it. It is nothing like what other people have described to me. I feel nothing when I use my hand. Never have. I am not comfortable with men going down on me because oddly, it feels too sensitive or just uncomfortable. So is it possible that I simply have a clitoris that feels very little? I'm far more excited by penetration and so I wonder if my nerves are concentrated in my vagina more than in my clit.

Marking Martin Luther King Day

Mon, 01/16/2017 - 09:29
Submitted by Carlin Ross

It's MLK weekend and it's not lost on any one of us exactly who is in the White House and how his administration feels about minorities (and women). His attacks on John Lewis are just the icing on cake. We've entered an era where nothing is sacred and all are suspect.

The question that keeps rolling through my mind is "how did we get here?" Obama was a great president who saved our auto industry, the economy - reformed our health care system - didn't get caught in any sexual or political scandal. Hillary won the popular vote. Most Americans are moderates. What is the underlying cancer eating this country alive?

My Clitoral Hood is Creased

Sun, 01/15/2017 - 07:59
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Betty,

I have a question about my clitoral hood. Between my clitoral hood and clitoris there's what looks like another fold of skin. I have looked it up online and don't seem to find anything about it. It's almost like the clitoral hood is creased. I have had my labia reduced before because they were so long but they are still pretty long.

Could that have something to do with it?

Dear C,

The fact that you've had labiaplasty indicates you are obsessively concerned about the appearance of your vulva. Yes, "Between my clitoral hood and clitoris there's what looks like another fold of skin" That's most likely what it is. So get over yourself and stop obsessing about how your poor pussy looks.

Beautiful Reproductive Drawings

Fri, 01/13/2017 - 08:56
Submitted by Carlin Ross

I just love the whimsical quality of this drawing.

If it was drawn today, there would have been a "g-spot" and possibly a "deep-spot".  We have so much to learn about female sexual response. 

Here's to future research, education and artistic renderings of our bodies and orgasmic response.

Maturbating Makes Me Want to Pee

Thu, 01/12/2017 - 09:04
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Betty and Carlin!

So much love for this website and I love your videos!

So to give you a little background, I am 22 years old and I have been masturbating since I was a child. I always struggled with reaching orgasm because.. it made me want to pee. I've googled this and some say that it might be a "squirting orgasm" and all that jazz but I don't really have orgasms, or rather, they're super small. (I just bought myself a Magic Wand and have been using it everyday since so I doubt that will be a problem any longer! HA HA!!)

Golden Globes Made Me Proud to be a Woman

Mon, 01/09/2017 - 13:22
Submitted by Carlin Ross

I'm not a huge fan of award shows and I'm definitely not a star fucker but I have to admit that watching the red carpet pics and clips from last night's Golden Globes made me proud to be a woman.

Here is Evan Rachel Wood in a tux - just perfection.  Fuck the gowns she looks so current and so sexy.  We had Lola Kirke on the red carpet in a strapless dress with obvious armpit hair and a "fuck Paul Ryan" button and then there was Meryl's speech.  

She echoed everything I'm been feeling. It is up to the Press to hold those in power accountable.  I feel a new wave of feminism starting to swell:

Am I a Lesbian or Bisexual?

Sun, 01/08/2017 - 07:54
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr. Betty,

I am 17 years old and I'm in a relationship with my girlfriend, although I've always been in romantic relationships with boys, until now. One thing I know for sure is I've always been attracted to women (I've always fantisized about girls bodies) but I don't know if I'm attracted to boys at all: I've never had a sexual experience, encounter or relationship with a man (not because I don't want to, I just haven't had the opportunity) and I think penises are gross and they scare me.

I've read this is normal since I've never had sex with a man and when the time comes I'll get used to it. I'm desperate to know my sexuality because I don't know what to tell people when they ask me and want to label me.

Dear J,

Promoting the Women's Rights March with the Male Gender Sign

Thu, 01/05/2017 - 12:25
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Twitter was a buzz over the latest cover for the Washington Post Express.  I'm sure someone got fired but what's crazy is that no one realized that they were using the male gender symbol to promote the Women's Rights March.  You'd imagine that a cover has layers of review and oversight.

I think this fuck up says alot about the current state of feminism.  Forget about knowing what's important to most women or the feminist  agenda - they can't even get the symbol for "woman" right.  Fucking pathetic.