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How Long Does It Take a Shaving Cut on Your Labia to Heal?

Tue, 04/11/2017 - 08:08
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty,

I just had an incident with my brand new razor. I was shaving, and I have hair just inside of my vaginal lips, so I tried to shave them... And felt a slight sting during. I thought nothing of it until I got out of the shower.

I have a cut from the clit connection to the labia minora (or looking up a detailed photo of a vagina, it's basically right on the Glands of the clitoris, but not actually on my clit and my clit appears to be unscathed). It's about half a centimeter or so I think, and it doesn't hurt right now, but I'm a little nervous and would like to know how long generally it will take to heal.

I won't be masturbating or having sex until it's healed because it looks terrifying.

Please help,
A

Dear A,

Only the Inkling of an Orgy

Tue, 04/11/2017 - 07:57
Submitted by Carlin Ross

This is one of Betty's earlier paintings. 

I love her group nudes because you can see something brewing in her work - her nudes are restless looking for more.  In only a few years, Betty would join America's Sexual Revolution, her nudes would start fornicating, and she'd became a feminist icon.

Can Sex Toys Retain Bacteria?

Mon, 04/03/2017 - 14:57
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi, Betty,

I have been using sex toys for many years. I am currently not with a partner. Recently I got more than one uti without having the typical painful uti symptoms. There were no symptoms at all. The most recent uti developed into severe sepsis and I was hospitalized for over a week and lucky to survive. A friend suggested perhaps it could be from a sex toy that somehow retained bacteria.

Now I am really concerned about trying to self-pleasure again. Do you have any suggestions?

E

Dear E,

I Had Put Myself in a Box

Mon, 04/03/2017 - 13:32
Submitted by Amy W

To feel confident and sexy. To feel desired and desirous. This is the gift Betty Dodson has given me. And I am not only forever grateful.

I am impassioned about sharing this beauty and this work with all the other women who think they see blue, but still see gray. All the other women who think they’re whole, but who are too busy to reclaim their own sensuality. The women who are too anxious to embrace pleasure for themselves, because they’re too busy providing it to their husbands, partners, children and friends. The women who feel too fat, too fluffy, too anything and everything to feel deserving of self-love and the freedom that makes me walk through life differently than I did before.
Removing the veil didn’t happen in a single day.

How Can I be More Confident, Show Myself Naked & Please Her?

Fri, 03/31/2017 - 07:46
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hey.

I'm not sure if my questions are for here, but i don't know who to ask and talk about it. So I'll be glad if you can answer.

I'm 19y. lesbian in relationship for first time and we are 2 years together now.  We had "sex" for 1st time in the end of the last year ,but it's not like it should be. I'm too shy to have my clothes off cuz i don't like my body and especially my labia and, when we are making love lights are off, I keep my pants on.  You can imagine how amateur it is..

Ovaries & Whimsy

Fri, 03/31/2017 - 07:39
Submitted by Carlin Ross

One of our Bodysex women - an Israeli artist - sent me this image and I love it.  The whimsy, the eroticism, the beauty speak to me. 

This is how I see womankind.

Did I Ruin My Clit from Unlubricated Masturbation?

Tue, 03/28/2017 - 08:06
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Dr. Betty,

I am 21 years old and have never really had a true orgasm. I fear I won't be able to. I discovered I could pleasure myself at an extremely young age. I use to masterbate by lying on my stomach with both my hands in a 'V' like shape on either side of my vagina and hump up and down. I'm worried I have ruined my clit due to improper and unlubricated masturbation.

I Feel & Think Too Much to Orgasm with a Partner

Tue, 03/21/2017 - 07:01
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Betty,

I've had this on my mind as of late and I'm going to try to put these feelings into words as simple as possible.

I'm 23 year Aspie old woman who has had both relationship and non-relationship penetrative sex - and I disliked both. I was in a one-year relationship with a wonderful guy I lost my virginity to and the sex was kinda unsatisfying. We were both inexperienced so it makes sense that the sex wasn't spectacular. He even had a difficult time staying hard and ejaculating. Eventually I grew tired and decided to clock out of the relationship, despite the fact that I still care for him. During that time, I started talking to another guy at school, who was the total opposite of my BF. He was much more sexually experienced but the sex itself was so painful.

The Power of Visibility

Tue, 03/21/2017 - 06:54
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Evan Rachel Wood's acceptance speech is so powerful because she describes what it feels like to grow up "bisexual" without a clear understanding of your orientation.  This is my favorite line, "I see you.  You see me.  We aren't so different.  Through connection the healing begins". 

I feel the same way about Bodysex.  When we connect...when we are seen and we see each other we are healed.

Am I Asexual?

Thu, 03/16/2017 - 08:50
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Dr. Betty,

I don't know whether I'm asexual or what's up with me. I'm a 24 year old girl. I can watch porn, get turned on and rub my clit until I orgasm, but whenever I've tried sexual things with someone else I just don't get turned on, if anything their bodily fluids (cum, saliva) disgust me and no amount of foreplay can get me wet

I fantasise about doing stuff with guys (and sometimes girls) and find them aesthetically pleasing to look at in images, but the real life thing doesn't do anything for me

What's up with me?

Thank you

J

Dear J,

If you are OK without a sex partner then stay single As long as you are masturbating and enjoying orgasms you are not considered asexual. Instead you are a selfsexual which is a valid lifestyle. Enjoy!

If Women Were Assigned Power...

Thu, 03/16/2017 - 08:45
Submitted by Carlin Ross

These are my two favorite paintings from artist Felice House. 

After moving from the Northeast to Austin, she fell if love with the concept of the "West" and thought about the roles women were relegated to, inspiring her to replace the cowboys in iconic (male-dominated) Western art with women. 

Her work says so much about power dynamics and gender roles.  Her paintings are 1.25 life-sized so the women are larger than the viewer, "when you see them in person, people are surprised by the scale. People aren't used to women towering over them."

Just breathtaking.

Has Humping Furniture Damaged My Clitoris?

Tue, 03/14/2017 - 08:10
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Dr Betty!

I am 18 years old and worried about the damage I may have done to my vagina. I discovered I could pleasure myself at 3 years old, by rubbing my clitoris against a sofa arm, and now regularly masterbate using the corner of a wooden desk. I am aware that this is really unhealthy as it is such a harsh movement, and I am worried that I have desensitised my clitoris or damaged it. Furthermore, as I tend to rub on one side, one of my labia majora has become much larger and more stretched than the other, giving my vulva a lopsided look (although I know vulva's come in all shapes and sizes I feel like mine is not normal as my masterbation has unnaturally stretched it).

The Power of the Group Guided the Perfect Experience for All of Us

Tue, 03/14/2017 - 07:57
Submitted by Laura Belle

After taking two Bodysex workshops with Betty and Carlin in New York, I really wanted to share the experience with a group of friends in Ohio. I figured this would give me valuable practice as I pursue my certification as a Bodysex facilitator.

I hosted a movie night and invited seven friends that were curious about my new passion. We watched Betty’s Bodysex Workshop DVD and talked about it. When I asked my friends who would like to join in a circle at my home with me as the facilitator, most were enthusiastic about participating. We set the date for a few weeks later and I began to prepare everything that we needed.

If You Look For The Light, The Light Is What You’ll Find

Sat, 03/11/2017 - 08:39
Submitted by Natasha

“If you look for the light, the light is what you’ll find. And if you think about the light, the light will fill your mind. If you shine on the light, the light comes shining back on you. It’s an old, old story…….. ain’t nothing new.”

Lyrics by Joyce Dancer


The day before this past weekend’s Body Sex Retreat I was emotional and weepy —overwhelmed with the realization that this is really the path I’m on. Only 3 years ago it was all just an idea and yet here I was on my way to the airport to pick up a woman for my 6th Bodysex circle. I felt honoured and grateful that even though this path has been full of both joy and pain, it’s without a doubt the path I’m meant to be on.

How Do I Have a Happy Sex Life When I Get Depressed?

Thu, 03/09/2017 - 08:43
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Betty, first of all I want to say thank you for your work on this site here. It have been interesting coming in here and read about several topics around female masturbation and sex life.

But I was wondering with many people struggling some sort of mental illness like depression and loneliness (the list go on). And how these things do effect sex life and masturbation. It's just a topic I haven't read so much about.

I personally don't use any anti-depresant medicines, but these feelings and moods can really have bad effect on my life (including my masturbation obviously).