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A Betty Dodson Valentine

Tue, 02/14/2017 - 09:28
Submitted by Carlin Ross

I love the sentiment of this Valentine Betty drew in 1987.

First, she dedicates it to herself (I think she should be credited with the selflove movement) and then the love she has for "all my friends, lovers and strangers all over planet earth".

Dealing with Extreme Vaginal Pain & My Clitoris Feels Dead

Wed, 02/08/2017 - 09:07
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi betty or Carlin or just anyone who could help,

I'm suffering!!!

I wrote you before when I first got diagnosed with my vaginal prolapse. and I just wanted to say thank you for the help, but im still so alone and lost. and that wasnt even part of my stupid problems it was just a bump on my horribly paved road. more and more problems keep stacking up and Im in pain and suffering to the point where I dont want to even know what to do. I just feel destroyed and broken. I could really just use some kind of help.

The Absence of Pleasure Leads to Systemic Violence

Tue, 02/07/2017 - 15:21
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Natasha posted a link to James Prescott's research on body pleasure and the origins of violence. I read through the dense extract and it was life affirming. We have instincts that, at times, we question. Everything Betty teaches through her books and the workshops can be quantified. Touch and pleasure inhibit violence across the board.

It starts with maternal touch as infants. Cultures that support mothers, don't sexualize breastfeeding toddlers, and encourage general affection have less violence. The concept that pain is useful in child-rearing produces angry, aggressive adolescents and adults. Here's an interesting wrinkle: mothers who didn't experience orgasm were more likely to abuse their children.

Feminism at the Superbowl

Mon, 02/06/2017 - 07:55
Submitted by Carlin Ross

I don't think we've ever had a more policitized Superbowl.  Most of the ads had a clear pro-diversity theme and it made me proud to be an American.

Then there was this moment when the Schuyler Sisters from the cast of Hamilton sang America the Beautiful and inserted "sisterhood" after the line "and crown thy hood in brotherhood"...it was electric:

Maybe we needed some push back to pave the way for true equality.   The people have spoken.

Thinking of Labiaplasty for My Large Dark Labia

Thu, 02/02/2017 - 09:18
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Dr. Betty,

I'll tell u my story but first my problem is I have dark labia majora and black very large redundant labia minora P.S. I'm a virgin arabic girl engaged and get married in july. It rubs in the panties and I have to put them inside using my fingers everytime I pee or change my panties they look disgusting and very ugly.  I consulted 4 different drs 3 women 2 in usa both of them recommended labiaplasty and 2 in my arabic country. 1 of them recommended surgery and one silenced after examining me for a minute and then said get married have sex first and see if u satisfied or not. He told me these surgeries aren't recommended to virgins because it may cause mutilations or being cold sexually afterwards.what is ur opinion ?

Loving This Picture of Vicky Balch

Thu, 02/02/2017 - 09:14
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Vicky Balch lost her leg in a rollercoaster accident when she was 21.  To promote positive body image among young girls, she released this picture featuring her amputation.

It's so powerful and reassuring.  All bodies are beautiful even with life's scars and losses.  What an amazing young woman.

Is My Hymen Still Intact After Tampons?

Mon, 01/30/2017 - 08:40
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hello Betty,

So I am trying to find out if my hymen is still intact I took some pictures but I am still unsure, as I can't see the opening but I can feel it, I stopped using tampons and have not had sex however when I try to spread the minora labia especially going down to the perineum it feels like am pulling or stretching something and I feel kind of sore after wards even with my legs wide open.Thank you for your time your feedback is well anticipated and appreciated.

P.S Tampons did hurt the first two times and they did hurt a little less every other time especially taking them out could you advise me please.

Dear R,

I Should Feel Guilty For Wanting More…

Mon, 01/30/2017 - 07:54
Submitted by Amy W

It’s not easy to unmask yourself. To choose the fire of truth and admit to failure, to fling yourself blindly off the cliff not knowing what lies below. But the alternative, the façade of wholeness and stability now felt suffocating. Unbearable. Like a too tight shirt in the stifling heat of summer. Can’t breathe. Here’s Part 1 of my own unmasking.

It’s hard to come to terms with.

In the Circle There Were No Countries

Fri, 01/27/2017 - 07:29
Submitted by fabiola

It’s been more than a month since the last Bodysex and I hadn’t been able to write. It’s been happening so much in my head and my feelings that it took me all this time to settle.

Every day I wake up more disappointed that the last day. Living in the US right now, surrounded by all the political changes, being not only a Woman, but a Mexican Woman, makes me scared to what’s going to happen to my gender, to my people. Not only Mexicans or immigrants living in the US will be affected, my country depends so much on US economy and politics (consequence of a terrible government) that right now everything feels to be collapsing and I’m afraid.

I Want to be Slutty But My Vagina Won't Let Me

Tue, 01/24/2017 - 08:57
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hello!

First of all I would like to preface my question with an enormous thanks to you and Carlin for all the passion, knowledge and dedication you put into your work. To have a resource of this immeasurable quality is invaluable to me and I hope that your message will continue to spread!

I am writing because I value your opinion most of all and am unsure of how to proceed. Forgive me for all the details but I want to be comprehensive.

I am a 22-year-old female. I have been self-sexual since the first onset of puberty at 10 or 11 years old.

Loving the Glitoris

Tue, 01/24/2017 - 07:58
Submitted by Carlin Ross

This is Australian artist Alli Sebastian Wolf with her Glitoris. I love how the glans is prominently represented and all the veins in the bulbs. She's been on stage with Amanda Palmer and even the Guardian featured this pic with top ten facts about the clitoris.

Finally, our sex organ is going mainstream.

The Best Use of Your Vibrator

Mon, 01/23/2017 - 07:53
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Teaching is about repetition so here I go again saying the same thing once more with different words. There seems to be no “common sense” when it comes to women’s orgasms because most of us demand instant success the American way…add hot water and stir. Or we are naturally angry for not being taught how to experience sexual pleasure in the first place while our male partners ejaculate every time. It’s no wonder you’re mad, confused and wondering “What wrong with me?”

All Women Should be Acknowledged & Supported by Feminism

Thu, 01/19/2017 - 09:11
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Trump's inauguration will prove one of the most surreal moments in American history. The system has elected the ultimate symbol of white privilege, misogyny, and corporate greed. The only thing that's keeping me together - besides the amazing twitter commentary on each of Donald's tweets - is the Women's March.

Almost 50 & Preorgasmic

Wed, 01/18/2017 - 08:02
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Betty,

I am nearing 50 and unable to fully orgasm, if I am at all. I have been using a hitachi magic wand which I have to cram into my clitoris in order to feel some kind of build up, which then has some kind of end to it. It is nothing like what other people have described to me. I feel nothing when I use my hand. Never have. I am not comfortable with men going down on me because oddly, it feels too sensitive or just uncomfortable. So is it possible that I simply have a clitoris that feels very little? I'm far more excited by penetration and so I wonder if my nerves are concentrated in my vagina more than in my clit.

Marking Martin Luther King Day

Mon, 01/16/2017 - 09:29
Submitted by Carlin Ross

It's MLK weekend and it's not lost on any one of us exactly who is in the White House and how his administration feels about minorities (and women). His attacks on John Lewis are just the icing on cake. We've entered an era where nothing is sacred and all are suspect.

The question that keeps rolling through my mind is "how did we get here?" Obama was a great president who saved our auto industry, the economy - reformed our health care system - didn't get caught in any sexual or political scandal. Hillary won the popular vote. Most Americans are moderates. What is the underlying cancer eating this country alive?