Could Asymmetrical Labia be Blocking My Orgasm?

Tue, 05/02/2017 - 07:15
Submitted by Betty Dodson


I love your site and I hope you could help me with this.

I'm 16 years old and I've never been able to have an orgasm. A lot of my friends talk about it and stuff. I tried different methods but nothing seem to work.

I feel like something is wrong with my vagina. It looks ugly. It's asymmetric and there's only one labia. I feel really insecure about it. Another thing I found on the internet is that about 10% of women have never have and never will be able to have an orgasm. That scares me. I don't want to be among them.

Please do help me.

Dear B,

Cellulite + Self-Managed Abortion = Hallmark Day for Women

Fri, 04/28/2017 - 06:45
Submitted by Carlin Ross

I've been waiting for some celebrity with curves to release an ass shot with no photoshopping displaying her cellulite in all its glory and it's finally happened.  This week Kim K posted this image to her Instagram account.  100,000 people - I'm assuming men - stopped following her and there's been a media storm over it.

If you have curves, you have cellulite dimples.  Women aren't plastic dolls.  Flesh has movement.  The more flesh you have the more dimples and movement.  I used to spend hours looking at my ass in the mirror trying to smooth out every cellulite dimple with hours of cardio.  The only time I was dimple free was when I was on a week juice cleanse with daily colonics.  Having Grayson cured me of my cellulite obsession. 

Is My Penis Too Small?

Fri, 04/28/2017 - 06:23
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr. Betty

I might not have such a special problem, it seems like there are questions sort of like mine all over the internet, but few people take it seriously or they take a PC approach to everything to the point they just totally dissmiss the posters questions. The people who answer seem to be more worried about their reputation and how their answer will be seen or thought of, rather than speaking the truth about things.

It's Not About the Orgasm

Tue, 04/25/2017 - 15:07
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Betty and I used to see each other three times a week and every Friday, rain or shine, we did a video and posted it to youtube. When I had Grayson, I took 3 months off. Thereafter, we got together at least once a week to do our video. Now that we're in the "Terrible Twos" and Betty's apartment is anything but baby proofed we haven't been coming in at all.

It's a stage, and will be over before I know it, but I miss Betty and want to get back to our Friday video schedule. The emails/comments begging us to do more clips sting when I read them. Suffice it to say, I was really looking forward to this past weekend's workshop - spending time with Betty and 6 other women from Canada, Beijing, the UK, Texas and right here in New York.

I Can Never Seem to Get Myself All the Way There

Fri, 04/21/2017 - 07:49
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Betty,

I'm 22 years old and a virgin and I have never had an orgasm. I masturbate fairly regularly, sometimes multiple times a day, but I can never seem to get myself all the way there. I know where my clitoris is, that's not a problem, and I get very wet when I touch myself. It feels good when I rub my clit but after a while either gets sore, or it's just boring and stops feeling like anything at all. I have a vibrate too but it doesn't really give me any pleasure, it feels almost the same as it might if I held it against my arm or something.

One Of The Best Orgasms I've EVER Had Came From An 85-Year-Old Woman

Thu, 04/20/2017 - 07:33
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Jenny Block took a workshop about a year ago and has been writen several pieces about the experience. Just when I think she's written the best article about the workshops and Betty's brilliance she tops herself.

Here's a brief description of her orgasm during erotic recess "with" Betty's instruction (her full article is here):

"Virgin Priestess"

Tue, 04/18/2017 - 07:41
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Betty did a series of market drawings in 2004 that she called her "granny porn".  This is one of my favorite images. 

Think I Developed Extra Skin on My Clitoral Hood From Masturbating

Sun, 04/16/2017 - 14:21
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Betty,

When I was pregnant, I developed a growth of skin on one side of my clitoral hood.

My OBGYN said she would remove it while I was delivering but for some reason or another it didn't happen. 10 years later, it's getting in my way when I'm trying to masterbate and I feel like it is taking a hit on my self esteem because I think I caused it by the skin to skin friction while masturbating. I've never seen anything like it in your pictures, and I'm shy to see a gynecologist about it now.

I was curious if you've ever seen something like that before, or if it's normal to develop extra skin from masturbating.


Dear H,

There is More Wisdom in Your Body Than in Your Deepest Philosophy

Sun, 04/16/2017 - 14:17
Submitted by Amy W

I’m just barely back from the out-of-this-world experience of a Bodysex workshop. It’s an incredible honor to facilitate, to witness profound change and re-birth. All my new sister goddesses and I felt so very soul-full in the end. We made heartfelt connections, where just the day before we were strangers.

The five women all seemed, at first, to be struggling under different circumstances, working on different things. Divided by geography and profession, economics and age, we soon realized we were more connected than any of us knew. While we each have our own stories, we recognized some of ourselves in each other. Similarities emerged as the struggles were shared, and we were drawn together and inward, supporting and supported.

Our Bodysex Workshop Manual on Amazon

Sat, 04/15/2017 - 12:23
Submitted by Carlin Ross

We wrote this book for our certification program. Our future Bodysex leaders wanted a manual, a step-by-step process with pictures, detailing how to run a workshop from beginning to end.

I'm not sure how I found the time to write this book but somehow it all came together with ease. The stars aligned because womankind demanded it.

When Betty saw the proof copy of this book, she remarked, "it's such a sweet book. This will be our Bodysex bible".

Here it is on Amazon. Our hope is that Bodysex spreads across the globe so that future generations of women can learn how to love themselves and their bodies.

How Long Does It Take a Shaving Cut on Your Labia to Heal?

Tue, 04/11/2017 - 08:08
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty,

I just had an incident with my brand new razor. I was shaving, and I have hair just inside of my vaginal lips, so I tried to shave them... And felt a slight sting during. I thought nothing of it until I got out of the shower.

I have a cut from the clit connection to the labia minora (or looking up a detailed photo of a vagina, it's basically right on the Glands of the clitoris, but not actually on my clit and my clit appears to be unscathed). It's about half a centimeter or so I think, and it doesn't hurt right now, but I'm a little nervous and would like to know how long generally it will take to heal.

I won't be masturbating or having sex until it's healed because it looks terrifying.

Please help,

Dear A,

Only the Inkling of an Orgy

Tue, 04/11/2017 - 07:57
Submitted by Carlin Ross

This is one of Betty's earlier paintings. 

I love her group nudes because you can see something brewing in her work - her nudes are restless looking for more.  In only a few years, Betty would join America's Sexual Revolution, her nudes would start fornicating, and she'd became a feminist icon.

Can Sex Toys Retain Bacteria?

Mon, 04/03/2017 - 14:57
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi, Betty,

I have been using sex toys for many years. I am currently not with a partner. Recently I got more than one uti without having the typical painful uti symptoms. There were no symptoms at all. The most recent uti developed into severe sepsis and I was hospitalized for over a week and lucky to survive. A friend suggested perhaps it could be from a sex toy that somehow retained bacteria.

Now I am really concerned about trying to self-pleasure again. Do you have any suggestions?


Dear E,

I Had Put Myself in a Box

Mon, 04/03/2017 - 13:32
Submitted by Amy W

To feel confident and sexy. To feel desired and desirous. This is the gift Betty Dodson has given me. And I am not only forever grateful.

I am impassioned about sharing this beauty and this work with all the other women who think they see blue, but still see gray. All the other women who think they’re whole, but who are too busy to reclaim their own sensuality. The women who are too anxious to embrace pleasure for themselves, because they’re too busy providing it to their husbands, partners, children and friends. The women who feel too fat, too fluffy, too anything and everything to feel deserving of self-love and the freedom that makes me walk through life differently than I did before.
Removing the veil didn’t happen in a single day.

How Can I be More Confident, Show Myself Naked & Please Her?

Fri, 03/31/2017 - 07:46
Submitted by Betty Dodson


I'm not sure if my questions are for here, but i don't know who to ask and talk about it. So I'll be glad if you can answer.

I'm 19y. lesbian in relationship for first time and we are 2 years together now.  We had "sex" for 1st time in the end of the last year ,but it's not like it should be. I'm too shy to have my clothes off cuz i don't like my body and especially my labia and, when we are making love lights are off, I keep my pants on.  You can imagine how amateur it is..