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I Have Absolutely No Sex Drive

Thu, 05/11/2017 - 07:28
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Dr. Betty,

I'm 46 years old and peri-menopausal. I'm also on anti-anxiety meds right now. The result? I have absolutely no sex drive!! And when I try to have sex with my husband, I don't get wet like I used to and my orgasms elude me (and I'm used to having multiple orgasms every time!!). A sure fire way for me to cum is for my hubby to eat my pussy. That's how I have all my orgasms.

For the past many many months, however....NOTHING! I don't self lubricate and I don't cum. Not to mention I don't crave sex anymore (something I always loved!). Is this totally normal for a woman my age? Will I get my drive back once menopause is done?

How long will that take? What's a girl to do?

K

When Women are Disconnected from Themselves They have Disconnected Partner Sex

Tue, 05/09/2017 - 07:27
Submitted by Katrina Marie

Does this scene sound familiar to you?

You are having sex with someone you love. But you’re really fucking frustrated. No matter how much you communicate or what is going on in the {{physical}} plane, you cannot get enough. Insatiable…but not in the hot way.

There is a fixation on lacking something. A feeling of being up in your head. Disconnected from your body. Instead of creating something, you are waiting for something. Waiting for what you want to come to you, to be given to you. Waiting for something/someone to MAKE you cum.

The French First Couple is Perfection

Sun, 05/07/2017 - 14:55
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Emmanuel Macron is the new President of France.  Not only is he the youngest president in history (39), but here he is with his 64 year-old wife, Brigette Macron, his former teacher whom he met when he was 15 years old. 

Thankfully, he defeated his conservative opponent whose platform including leaving the EU and limiting immigration though she never proposed builing a wall around Paris.

Can you imagine this happening in America?  We'd freak out if an older, richer woman entered the White House side-by-side with her much younger husband as President elect.  Politics is different in France. 

Does the Penis Have 8,000 Nerve Endings Like the Clitoris?

Sun, 05/07/2017 - 14:47
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr. Betty,

I read that there are 8,000 nerve endings on the female clitoris. On women who have large clitorises, it looks just like a male penis head.

It strikes me that there might be the same number of nerve ending on a penis - what do you think?

Dear I,

Circumcised or uncut? I doubt the head of a penis has that many nerve endings as it would be too sensitive to own. Remember the glans clitoris is protected under the hood of the clitoris. I believe there is a very sensitive spot just under the head of the penis that resembles a V and is very responsive. Basically it all feels good with additional lubrication like Almond or Coconut oil.

Dr Betty

Betty & Jackie

Wed, 05/03/2017 - 08:11
Submitted by Carlin Ross

I love this image of Betty sitting in front of her fire place - her altar - with Jackie above the mantle.  Jackie was part of her Masturbating Nudes exhibition that followed her Love Picture exhibition.  It was a total flop and Betty left the art world for feminism.

Jackie hangs in my bedroom.

Could Asymmetrical Labia be Blocking My Orgasm?

Tue, 05/02/2017 - 07:15
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hello!

I love your site and I hope you could help me with this.

I'm 16 years old and I've never been able to have an orgasm. A lot of my friends talk about it and stuff. I tried different methods but nothing seem to work.

I feel like something is wrong with my vagina. It looks ugly. It's asymmetric and there's only one labia. I feel really insecure about it. Another thing I found on the internet is that about 10% of women have never have and never will be able to have an orgasm. That scares me. I don't want to be among them.

Please do help me.

Dear B,

Cellulite + Self-Managed Abortion = Hallmark Day for Women

Fri, 04/28/2017 - 06:45
Submitted by Carlin Ross

I've been waiting for some celebrity with curves to release an ass shot with no photoshopping displaying her cellulite in all its glory and it's finally happened.  This week Kim K posted this image to her Instagram account.  100,000 people - I'm assuming men - stopped following her and there's been a media storm over it.

If you have curves, you have cellulite dimples.  Women aren't plastic dolls.  Flesh has movement.  The more flesh you have the more dimples and movement.  I used to spend hours looking at my ass in the mirror trying to smooth out every cellulite dimple with hours of cardio.  The only time I was dimple free was when I was on a week juice cleanse with daily colonics.  Having Grayson cured me of my cellulite obsession. 

Is My Penis Too Small?

Fri, 04/28/2017 - 06:23
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr. Betty

I might not have such a special problem, it seems like there are questions sort of like mine all over the internet, but few people take it seriously or they take a PC approach to everything to the point they just totally dissmiss the posters questions. The people who answer seem to be more worried about their reputation and how their answer will be seen or thought of, rather than speaking the truth about things.

It's Not About the Orgasm

Tue, 04/25/2017 - 15:07
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Betty and I used to see each other three times a week and every Friday, rain or shine, we did a video and posted it to youtube. When I had Grayson, I took 3 months off. Thereafter, we got together at least once a week to do our video. Now that we're in the "Terrible Twos" and Betty's apartment is anything but baby proofed we haven't been coming in at all.

It's a stage, and will be over before I know it, but I miss Betty and want to get back to our Friday video schedule. The emails/comments begging us to do more clips sting when I read them. Suffice it to say, I was really looking forward to this past weekend's workshop - spending time with Betty and 6 other women from Canada, Beijing, the UK, Texas and right here in New York.

I Can Never Seem to Get Myself All the Way There

Fri, 04/21/2017 - 07:49
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Betty,

I'm 22 years old and a virgin and I have never had an orgasm. I masturbate fairly regularly, sometimes multiple times a day, but I can never seem to get myself all the way there. I know where my clitoris is, that's not a problem, and I get very wet when I touch myself. It feels good when I rub my clit but after a while either gets sore, or it's just boring and stops feeling like anything at all. I have a vibrate too but it doesn't really give me any pleasure, it feels almost the same as it might if I held it against my arm or something.

One Of The Best Orgasms I've EVER Had Came From An 85-Year-Old Woman

Thu, 04/20/2017 - 07:33
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Jenny Block took a workshop about a year ago and has been writen several pieces about the experience. Just when I think she's written the best article about the workshops and Betty's brilliance she tops herself.

Here's a brief description of her orgasm during erotic recess "with" Betty's instruction (her full article is here):

"Virgin Priestess"

Tue, 04/18/2017 - 07:41
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Betty did a series of market drawings in 2004 that she called her "granny porn".  This is one of my favorite images. 

Think I Developed Extra Skin on My Clitoral Hood From Masturbating

Sun, 04/16/2017 - 14:21
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Betty,

When I was pregnant, I developed a growth of skin on one side of my clitoral hood.

My OBGYN said she would remove it while I was delivering but for some reason or another it didn't happen. 10 years later, it's getting in my way when I'm trying to masterbate and I feel like it is taking a hit on my self esteem because I think I caused it by the skin to skin friction while masturbating. I've never seen anything like it in your pictures, and I'm shy to see a gynecologist about it now.

I was curious if you've ever seen something like that before, or if it's normal to develop extra skin from masturbating.

Thanks
H

Dear H,

There is More Wisdom in Your Body Than in Your Deepest Philosophy

Sun, 04/16/2017 - 14:17
Submitted by Amy W

I’m just barely back from the out-of-this-world experience of a Bodysex workshop. It’s an incredible honor to facilitate, to witness profound change and re-birth. All my new sister goddesses and I felt so very soul-full in the end. We made heartfelt connections, where just the day before we were strangers.

The five women all seemed, at first, to be struggling under different circumstances, working on different things. Divided by geography and profession, economics and age, we soon realized we were more connected than any of us knew. While we each have our own stories, we recognized some of ourselves in each other. Similarities emerged as the struggles were shared, and we were drawn together and inward, supporting and supported.

Our Bodysex Workshop Manual on Amazon

Sat, 04/15/2017 - 12:23
Submitted by Carlin Ross

We wrote this book for our certification program. Our future Bodysex leaders wanted a manual, a step-by-step process with pictures, detailing how to run a workshop from beginning to end.

I'm not sure how I found the time to write this book but somehow it all came together with ease. The stars aligned because womankind demanded it.

When Betty saw the proof copy of this book, she remarked, "it's such a sweet book. This will be our Bodysex bible".

Here it is on Amazon. Our hope is that Bodysex spreads across the globe so that future generations of women can learn how to love themselves and their bodies.