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Our Scars Are Illustrations Of The Stories Of Our Lives

Fri, 09/01/2017 - 06:43
Submitted by Natasha

“A hospital chaplain says that the dying have a lot to teach us on how to live our lives better while we still can. One of the most frequent yet surprising regrets she’s found, especially from female patients, is the fact that they hated their bodies for so many years. Only now, when that body is truly failing, do they realize they should have celebrated it.”


A couple of weeks ago, while recovering from surgery to remove a tumor on my thyroid, I spent the night and day on the South Saskatchewan river. I’d been told that I should avoid the sun to lessen the severity of my scar, but I knew that there was nothing that could be more healing for me than the sun on my body, sand in my hair and the river under me.

Here Comes the Pleasure Revolution

Fri, 08/25/2017 - 07:21
Submitted by Carlin Ross
Betty Dodson 1975

There are several media pieces coming out about the Bodysex Summit and Betty's life work. We didn't plan it but somehow interest in Bodysex, the certification program, Betty's 88th birthday and her upcoming episode on Broad City = some pretty amazing press.

This article ran yesterday on iNews and it's pretty amazing. Here are my favorite quotes (and they chose all the best pics):

“Betty started the dialogue by insisting that the clitoris is a woman’s primary sex organ,” says Ross. “Words like ‘masturbation’ and ‘clitoris’ trend with the release of her feminist classic Liberating Masturbation.”

Stretchmarks & Menstrual Rainbows

Mon, 08/21/2017 - 14:58
Submitted by Carlin Ross

I stumbled upon the instagram page of 21-year-old artist Cinta Tort Carto and fell in love.

She traces the stretchmarks on women's bodies with rainbow paint.  She glitters and rainbows menstrual markings on panties, diva cups and tampons.  It's so refreshing to view art that celebrates the power of our bodies while calling attention to misogynistic denigration and objectification:

Did I Get Sexually Wild at 50?

Fri, 08/11/2017 - 07:54
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty,

I am an attractive professional woman who is a flight attendant for a well known Airline and just recently turned 50 and still have a sexy body and legs. MY husband and I have been married for 14 yrs with no kids and he works nights for an automotive company. We have ok sex regularly but I don't always have orgasms with him. My husband thinks old fashioned religious beliefs and would not approve of me masturbating.

Taylor Swift in Court = Perfection

Fri, 08/11/2017 - 07:45
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Taylor Swift's sexual assault trial is underway and her testimony is beyond brilliant.

In 2013, David Mueller grabber Taylor's ass in the photo attached here. She was 23 and he was 51. Taylor and her parents decided not to go public because they didn't want the assault to define her career (and I agree with them. America loves women in jep). Instead, they gave notice to Mr. Mueller's employer and he was promptly fired.

Then, like any ass-grabbing loser would, he filed a $3M lawsuit against Taylor for getting him fired. Masterfully, she countersued for $1 (I love this woman). Now they're in court.

It was an Experience Beyond Words

Sun, 08/06/2017 - 19:47
Submitted by Carlin Ross

I was a complete mess heading into the Bodysex retreat. Chasing an active toddler while taking calls and organizing details was a huge challenge. I barely make it through the day as it is so the extra work hurt.

I Am Enough

Fri, 08/04/2017 - 07:48
Submitted by Natasha

Just over three years ago I flew to NYC to attend my first Bodysex workshop. At that time I was disconnected with myself sexually, afraid to cry in front of others, 10lbs skinnier and hated my body. I was terrified of my “ugliness” being seen and at the same time desperate for someone to see it and love me anyways. I wasn’t sure what I’d get from doing something that scared me so much, but I did know that I wanted to find a way through all of my insecurities and feel like I’m enough as me.

Is It True Some Women Just Can't Orgasm?

Wed, 07/19/2017 - 07:47
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr. Betty,

I am 22 years old and I'm not sure I've ever had an orgasm.

I'm originally from Eastern Europe, and had a religious upbringing. I remember being a preteen and asking my mother what sex was like, and she replied "not fun". I always felt guilty about having sexual thoughts, and didn't even allow myself to masturbate until I was 17. As of now I'm in a good relationship with a guy who makes me feel comfortable and I'm finally starting to enjoy sex. I've even found that anal play is a lot of fun!

But I don't come when I'm with my boyfriend, and it never happens when I'm alone either. I try to masturbate with a vibrator, feel like I'm getting into it, and then the feeling suddenly goes away.

Bodysex is More Relevant with Each Passing Day

Fri, 07/14/2017 - 08:19
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Aside from watching our President manhandle the first lady of France while telling her "she's in good shape", we experienced two major events this week:

A one-trillion ton ice berg broke off of the Antarctic peninsula much sooner than any climate change scientist predicted AND

The permafrost at the North Pole melted flooding Norway's Doomsday seed archive. This is significant because the permafrost holds 2x the amount of carbon currently in our atmostphere. We've had three mass extinctions - one caused by an asteroid and two by the melting of the permafrost.

I Don't Understand Why I Don't Like Being Touched

Wed, 07/12/2017 - 08:37
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Dr. Betty,

I feel a bit abnormal for admitting this, but I have never liked being touched. Massages, pedicures, etc. are fine, but I don’t like hugs or kisses, even from my husband. When he touches me I stiffen up and feel very uncomfortable. In order to have sex I have to have at least a glass of wine to relax enough just to stand it.

My Favorite Crotch Shot from National Bikini Day

Thu, 07/06/2017 - 16:31
Submitted by Carlin Ross

God damn it, I love this woman.  In honor of #nationalbikiniday, Amy Schumer published this crotch shot to her Instagram page. 

What's more feminist than body pride and full frontal vulva in this grab-her-by-the-pussy era we're living in?   And let's not forget Amy's Glamour awards speech where she proclaimed that she's "160 pounds and catches mad dick":

Happy Independent Orgasm Day for All Women Everywhere

Tue, 07/04/2017 - 08:09
Submitted by Betty Dodson
Betty Dodson 1967

We had talked about it for several weeks, but still, it was intimidating to actually pull it off. Several big elements in my life had occurred that year; my seven year marriage had ended with a legal settlement that I would receive $500 a month for the first year, $400 the next and then 3, 2 and 1 hundred dollars respectfully for the final years. It was mutually agreed upon by both of us to ease me back into the commercial art world after painting full time in my studio.

At the end of the first year, I was informed there would be no more checks in the mail; he had lost his job, his former secretary was now pregnant and would be giving birth to their first child in eight months. We both got what we wanted; fatherhood for him and freedom for me.

Am I Less of a Woman Because Penetration is Painful?

Thu, 06/29/2017 - 08:10
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty,

I'm 17 years old and I'm now in a committed relationship (of 2 years) to where I feel ready and comfortable enough to engage in sexual activities and I am dying to take it to the next level, penetration! I was super excited to try this with my girlfriend (and even a bit nervous of course).

We bought a strap-on and when the time came to do the do, it wouldn't go in! It was extremely painful, but we took our time and slowly got it not even half way in but I was determind to get this thing in me one way or another. As it went depper it was getting more and more painful and burning terribly, and all the while my girlfriend kept encouraging me to keep trying and that it was normal to be that painful the first time, but it just didnt feel right to me.

Pleasure is the Real Power

Wed, 06/28/2017 - 15:23
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Knowing that this past weekend's workshop would be our last shifted something in a very important way - both for us and the women in the circle. If I had to choose one word to describe the weekend, it would be reverance.

I felt a heaviness heading into the weekend, the anticipation of emotion and possible regret. And we'd decided to let the doc crew film our morning together as we set up the room and had breakfast so I had to be camera-ready and "on". Whenever we shoot, I'm always conscious that someone decades from now - maybe even a century - will stumble upon the clip. I want Betty's work to be properly represented. I want to get it all right. I want my words to have meaning.

My Orgasms Were Real But Was My Story?

Thu, 06/22/2017 - 07:45
Submitted by Anonymous
original painting Betty Dodson

I read your recent posts about transformation, a new chapter for you both and it resonated with me. I had been reflecting on the past 6 months since attending body sex and I would like to share my thoughts with you.

When I came back from New York not only was I exhausted, I was really confused. The experience was layered with contradicting experiences. I was elated to have met one of my greatest inspirations and to have shared orgasms with an amazing group of women but I had a big question looming about how honest I was.

I questioned myself for several weeks about my authenticity. My orgasms were real but was my story?