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Bodysex Builds Compassion

Thu, 05/25/2017 - 14:54
Submitted by Carlin Ross

When we book the workshops, I try to book 8 women in each group but there's always one workshop that's underbooked, one that's overbooked, and one that's perfect. This past weekend's group was our overbooked workshop.

We had women from all over the United States - one native New Yorker - and future bodysex leaders from Israel and Canada. More importantly, we had our first mother daughter attendees. I didn't clear it with Betty when I booked them but somehow I knew that it was going to work.

How Can I Relax & Embrace Pleasure During Pregnancy?

Thu, 05/25/2017 - 07:28
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty,

first of all, thank you for doing this noble work of yours.

I have been in a loving, monogamous relationship with my man for about five years.  Before him, I had six partners and not really fulfilling romantic or sexual life. My first partner was satisfying me, but I cannot even remember the details since it was very long time ago and I mostly remember being very unhappy about him not wanting to be anything else but my fuck-friend.

Remembering My Journey

Wed, 05/17/2017 - 15:20
Submitted by Carlin Ross
Thanksgiving 2001

As women, I think it's easy to forget our journey. Careers, motherhood and the constant barage of life duties and expectations keep you locked down in the present. Sometimes you need to spend an hour or two answering questions about your life story to remember.

We're finally moving forward with a documentary on Betty with a trusted producer. We don't have any creative control but feel confident that they understand who Betty is and the relevance of her work. It was totally inconvenient but I spent last Saturday, under the lights in full makeup, describing how I ended up on Betty Dodson's door step.

Why Am I Sad After Amazing Sex?

Wed, 05/17/2017 - 13:59
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty,

I have recently experienced something confusing and I would love your perspective. I met a man with whom I have unprecedented chemistry. We had mind-blowing sex, he was by far the best lover I ever had. In a way, he encompasses all the best skills and attributes of many of my previous / other lovers. Still, I cannot shake off feelings of sadness that I experienced just after a very intense orgasm with him.

My first question to him after coming was 'are you happy in life?' as if I tapped into some sadness of unknown origin. Have you ever experienced anything like that?

How to know if this sadness is mine or his (ie. I could have felt it due to intense interpersonal connection?

N

Dear N,

Sophie Emma Rose Normalized Breastfeeding Your Toddler

Thu, 05/11/2017 - 07:59
Submitted by Carlin Ross

I remember the first time I viewed this video.  Grayson wasn't even a thought back then but it made a huge impression on me.  Sophie Joy and her son Shay seemed so happy and healthy.  There was something so real and touching about her and the relationship she had with her son. 

Last week Sophie Joy was killed in a motorcylce accident in Thailand.  Our hearts go out to her family.  Her loss is felt throughout the world.  As I was breastfeeding Grayson this morning (he's two years old now), I kept thinking of Sophie and Shay.

I Have Absolutely No Sex Drive

Thu, 05/11/2017 - 07:28
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Dr. Betty,

I'm 46 years old and peri-menopausal. I'm also on anti-anxiety meds right now. The result? I have absolutely no sex drive!! And when I try to have sex with my husband, I don't get wet like I used to and my orgasms elude me (and I'm used to having multiple orgasms every time!!). A sure fire way for me to cum is for my hubby to eat my pussy. That's how I have all my orgasms.

For the past many many months, however....NOTHING! I don't self lubricate and I don't cum. Not to mention I don't crave sex anymore (something I always loved!). Is this totally normal for a woman my age? Will I get my drive back once menopause is done?

How long will that take? What's a girl to do?

K

When Women are Disconnected from Themselves They have Disconnected Partner Sex

Tue, 05/09/2017 - 07:27
Submitted by Katrina Marie

Does this scene sound familiar to you?

You are having sex with someone you love. But you’re really fucking frustrated. No matter how much you communicate or what is going on in the {{physical}} plane, you cannot get enough. Insatiable…but not in the hot way.

There is a fixation on lacking something. A feeling of being up in your head. Disconnected from your body. Instead of creating something, you are waiting for something. Waiting for what you want to come to you, to be given to you. Waiting for something/someone to MAKE you cum.

The French First Couple is Perfection

Sun, 05/07/2017 - 14:55
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Emmanuel Macron is the new President of France.  Not only is he the youngest president in history (39), but here he is with his 64 year-old wife, Brigette Macron, his former teacher whom he met when he was 15 years old. 

Thankfully, he defeated his conservative opponent whose platform including leaving the EU and limiting immigration though she never proposed builing a wall around Paris.

Can you imagine this happening in America?  We'd freak out if an older, richer woman entered the White House side-by-side with her much younger husband as President elect.  Politics is different in France. 

Does the Penis Have 8,000 Nerve Endings Like the Clitoris?

Sun, 05/07/2017 - 14:47
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr. Betty,

I read that there are 8,000 nerve endings on the female clitoris. On women who have large clitorises, it looks just like a male penis head.

It strikes me that there might be the same number of nerve ending on a penis - what do you think?

Dear I,

Circumcised or uncut? I doubt the head of a penis has that many nerve endings as it would be too sensitive to own. Remember the glans clitoris is protected under the hood of the clitoris. I believe there is a very sensitive spot just under the head of the penis that resembles a V and is very responsive. Basically it all feels good with additional lubrication like Almond or Coconut oil.

Dr Betty

Betty & Jackie

Wed, 05/03/2017 - 08:11
Submitted by Carlin Ross

I love this image of Betty sitting in front of her fire place - her altar - with Jackie above the mantle.  Jackie was part of her Masturbating Nudes exhibition that followed her Love Picture exhibition.  It was a total flop and Betty left the art world for feminism.

Jackie hangs in my bedroom.

Could Asymmetrical Labia be Blocking My Orgasm?

Tue, 05/02/2017 - 07:15
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hello!

I love your site and I hope you could help me with this.

I'm 16 years old and I've never been able to have an orgasm. A lot of my friends talk about it and stuff. I tried different methods but nothing seem to work.

I feel like something is wrong with my vagina. It looks ugly. It's asymmetric and there's only one labia. I feel really insecure about it. Another thing I found on the internet is that about 10% of women have never have and never will be able to have an orgasm. That scares me. I don't want to be among them.

Please do help me.

Dear B,

Cellulite + Self-Managed Abortion = Hallmark Day for Women

Fri, 04/28/2017 - 06:45
Submitted by Carlin Ross

I've been waiting for some celebrity with curves to release an ass shot with no photoshopping displaying her cellulite in all its glory and it's finally happened.  This week Kim K posted this image to her Instagram account.  100,000 people - I'm assuming men - stopped following her and there's been a media storm over it.

If you have curves, you have cellulite dimples.  Women aren't plastic dolls.  Flesh has movement.  The more flesh you have the more dimples and movement.  I used to spend hours looking at my ass in the mirror trying to smooth out every cellulite dimple with hours of cardio.  The only time I was dimple free was when I was on a week juice cleanse with daily colonics.  Having Grayson cured me of my cellulite obsession. 

Is My Penis Too Small?

Fri, 04/28/2017 - 06:23
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr. Betty

I might not have such a special problem, it seems like there are questions sort of like mine all over the internet, but few people take it seriously or they take a PC approach to everything to the point they just totally dissmiss the posters questions. The people who answer seem to be more worried about their reputation and how their answer will be seen or thought of, rather than speaking the truth about things.

It's Not About the Orgasm

Tue, 04/25/2017 - 15:07
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Betty and I used to see each other three times a week and every Friday, rain or shine, we did a video and posted it to youtube. When I had Grayson, I took 3 months off. Thereafter, we got together at least once a week to do our video. Now that we're in the "Terrible Twos" and Betty's apartment is anything but baby proofed we haven't been coming in at all.

It's a stage, and will be over before I know it, but I miss Betty and want to get back to our Friday video schedule. The emails/comments begging us to do more clips sting when I read them. Suffice it to say, I was really looking forward to this past weekend's workshop - spending time with Betty and 6 other women from Canada, Beijing, the UK, Texas and right here in New York.