Did I Vibrate My Nerve Endings to Death?

Fri, 10/06/2017 - 07:39
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr. Betty

I'm hoping someone can give me advice about this.

I was a late bloomer to sex. I never explored down there until I got a vibrator randomly in college. The second time I used the vibrator I achieved orgasm. For a year or so, I continued to use the vibrator, each time having extremely intense full body orgasms-- cold feet followed by waves of warmth, many contractions. I felt like I knew my body like clockwork. I'm not sure what happened, but over the course of the following year my orgasms got shallower and shallower until I barely noticed them. (No, I was not on any medications that might have affected this.) . I'm not even sure if they were orgasms or just little waves of pleasure before orgasm.

Weaving A Web Of Sisterhood

Mon, 10/02/2017 - 09:13
Submitted by Natasha

The night before last weekend’s Bodysex retreat began, I laid down on the rug in the centre of the circle — inhaling the smells of body oil and beeswax — and felt the familiar sensation of being home. If I don’t feel safe to be myself in a circle of women, where in the world would I feel safe?

An Interactive Map of Sheela Na Gigs

Fri, 09/29/2017 - 09:54
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Researchers have put together an interactive map of Sheela Na Gigs in Western Europe.  These graven images of older women pulling open their vulvas adorned churches and places of worship in Medieval times and harken back to ancient Egypt. 

It's not surprising that most of these reliefs were taken down and put in church basements like the image I've attached here (it's why so many of them have survived).  The prevailing thought was that Sheela Na Gigs were created as warnings against human lust.  I guess if you were a gay priest full frontal would seem like an admonition against sex. 

How Do You Get Comfortable Having Sex When Battling Erection Issues?

Tue, 09/26/2017 - 06:54
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr. Betty,

I won't take up too much of your time. I will try my best to present the point of me contacting you. I am 38, married man who has 2 children. My wife is 46. We are eight years apart in ages. Okay, now that we got that away, now comes the hardest part. I have spoken to a marriage counselor for sometime now. I've countless sexual "hang-ups", and was wondering, will they eventually leave? Whenever I viewed pornography, I would masturbate to the oral sex movies. I had at one time, preferred masturbating to actual sex. Because I’m a lousy lover.

Hello Sexy

Fri, 09/15/2017 - 06:58
Submitted by Angela Thurston

Hello Sexy,

I trust that my letter finds you safe, and lusciously warm and comfy. I do hope that you may drink in my words with no distractions.

Today began with my usual morning epsom salt soak. I am always taken aback at the serenity I experience as my morning body makes connection with the hot fragrant water. This morning I had the luxury of an extended period in the tub. Actually to the point of dizziness from the intensity of the heat.

I treasure the exquisite state in which I begin my days. My morning ritual is the perfect preparation to explore the delectable terrain of my body—before I engage with the world.

The First Bodysex Circle in Seattle

Tue, 09/12/2017 - 06:54
Submitted by Irina

Seattle Bodysex Workshop had a difficult birth. After three other set dates that didn’t happen, and seven months later, Seattle finally received its first Bodysex Workshop.

Like everything else in life, it did happen just at the right moment. I had to grow and become the person who could lead such a powerful workshop. And growth takes time, patience, grit, and just a little bit of luck.

The luck piece was the epic event, Bodysex Summit, held at a buddhist retreat center in New York, to celebrate Betty Dodson’s life and work at an ‘early’ 90th birthday, just two weeks before the Seattle Workshop. The waves of encouragement, enthusiasm, sisterhood and empowerment swept me up and fueled me with the right confidence, belief and determination to make it happen.

Are Sleep Orgasms Normal?

Fri, 09/08/2017 - 15:06
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Dr. Betty,

I am curious about the phenomenon of sleep orgasms.

I know they are normal but I am getting them once or twice every week or 2 weeks. I haven't masturbated for 3-4 months now and is this the reason why i am getting them? By masturbating, will that reduce the amount of sleep orgasms that i am getting since it may be the way of my body releasing the sexual desires? I have been masturbating since i was very young until now and i am healthy, non sexually active and 22 (female).

The Joy Radiates From This Image

Wed, 09/06/2017 - 08:08
Submitted by Carlin Ross

We are surrounded by so much pain.  From natural disasters (hurricanes and wild fires) to suffering caused by the hand of man (the fires in Oregon and the repeal of DACA). 

When I'm feeling down, I click on my desk top file folder "retreat pics" and gaze at this image.  I remember the love, joy, beauty and pleasure that can be achieved when we love ourselves. 

Thought I'd share it with you.

Since Menopause Sex Burns

Sun, 09/03/2017 - 07:25
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Betty

I have just finished reading an article in the July issue of Next magazine (New Zealand) about sex for the over 50's, and the article mentioned your website. I have been experiencing painful sex for the past 5 years, and so I jumped on to your website looking for a bit of help. I am writing now asking for help because I am getting desperate!

Cannabis Plants & My Dick Dialogue

Sun, 09/03/2017 - 07:11
Submitted by bila kolbe

While out on the deck under enjoyable circumstances as narrated below, I got to wondering- of what interest or possible benefit might this blog have for the greater D & R society. I believe during these times of sinister political melees and a plunging loss of faith in the individual occupying the presidential throne, we need to spread messages and actions of love and understanding, and most importantly- love of self. Love, with its infinite manifestations, prevails as the most potent remedy for whatever physical, mental, and spiritual maladies that may beset us.

Our Scars Are Illustrations Of The Stories Of Our Lives

Fri, 09/01/2017 - 06:43
Submitted by Natasha

“A hospital chaplain says that the dying have a lot to teach us on how to live our lives better while we still can. One of the most frequent yet surprising regrets she’s found, especially from female patients, is the fact that they hated their bodies for so many years. Only now, when that body is truly failing, do they realize they should have celebrated it.”

A couple of weeks ago, while recovering from surgery to remove a tumor on my thyroid, I spent the night and day on the South Saskatchewan river. I’d been told that I should avoid the sun to lessen the severity of my scar, but I knew that there was nothing that could be more healing for me than the sun on my body, sand in my hair and the river under me.

Here Comes the Pleasure Revolution

Fri, 08/25/2017 - 07:21
Submitted by Carlin Ross
Betty Dodson 1975

There are several media pieces coming out about the Bodysex Summit and Betty's life work. We didn't plan it but somehow interest in Bodysex, the certification program, Betty's 88th birthday and her upcoming episode on Broad City = some pretty amazing press.

This article ran yesterday on iNews and it's pretty amazing. Here are my favorite quotes (and they chose all the best pics):

“Betty started the dialogue by insisting that the clitoris is a woman’s primary sex organ,” says Ross. “Words like ‘masturbation’ and ‘clitoris’ trend with the release of her feminist classic Liberating Masturbation.”

Stretchmarks & Menstrual Rainbows

Mon, 08/21/2017 - 14:58
Submitted by Carlin Ross

I stumbled upon the instagram page of 21-year-old artist Cinta Tort Carto and fell in love.

She traces the stretchmarks on women's bodies with rainbow paint.  She glitters and rainbows menstrual markings on panties, diva cups and tampons.  It's so refreshing to view art that celebrates the power of our bodies while calling attention to misogynistic denigration and objectification:

Did I Get Sexually Wild at 50?

Fri, 08/11/2017 - 07:54
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty,

I am an attractive professional woman who is a flight attendant for a well known Airline and just recently turned 50 and still have a sexy body and legs. MY husband and I have been married for 14 yrs with no kids and he works nights for an automotive company. We have ok sex regularly but I don't always have orgasms with him. My husband thinks old fashioned religious beliefs and would not approve of me masturbating.

Taylor Swift in Court = Perfection

Fri, 08/11/2017 - 07:45
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Taylor Swift's sexual assault trial is underway and her testimony is beyond brilliant.

In 2013, David Mueller grabber Taylor's ass in the photo attached here. She was 23 and he was 51. Taylor and her parents decided not to go public because they didn't want the assault to define her career (and I agree with them. America loves women in jep). Instead, they gave notice to Mr. Mueller's employer and he was promptly fired.

Then, like any ass-grabbing loser would, he filed a $3M lawsuit against Taylor for getting him fired. Masterfully, she countersued for $1 (I love this woman). Now they're in court.