The Next Bodysex Workshops

Thu, 09/14/2017 - 07:01
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Taking a bodysex workshop is transformative.  We focus on overcoming negative body image and pleasure anxiety. 

Yes, they're done in the nude but it's not sexual.  Betty developed these workshops using the consciousness raising model of second wave feminism where women got together and shared their experience first person. You can read about past workshops to better understand the experience here (scroll down to read blog posts written by Carlin and our Bodysex leaders).

Whatever your race, orientation, upbringing, or country of origin, we have wounds to heal. All are welcome.

The next workshops will be held Spring 2018 on these dates. It's a two day workshop:

Bodysex Certification

Thu, 11/17/2016 - 15:00
Submitted by Carlin Ross

If you have any questions or would like to start the certification process, send an email to


Our goal is to certify women to hold their own Bodysex workshops so that the Betty Dodson method of self-love and sisterhood continues and expands to every country around the world.

When Betty and I first got together, we had this vision of a world map with red lights being illuminated every time someone clicked on D&R. Now we feel that those red lights represent women certified in the Betty Dodson method as each woman holds her own Bodysex workshops.

Working Through Painful Penetration

Thu, 02/25/2016 - 20:02
Submitted by Carlin Ross

I've always been a size queen and I've always been able to penetrate my vagina with ease. When women would share their stories of pain during penetration and how it affected their lives, I couldn't relate...until after I gave birth.

Despite opting for a midwife and choosing a birthing center, I ended up having a C-section. Grayson weighed in at 9 pounds. I thought I could control the weight of my baby by limiting my weight gain during pregnancy. WRONG. I gained 15 pounds but he was huge. There was simply no way I could have had a vaginal birth.

Our Latest Ebook & Vulva Anatomy

Wed, 02/13/2013 - 17:22
Submitted by Carlin Ross

I'm really focused on ebooks right now because it's the easiest way for us to get our information out globally and keep the lights on.  Betty's memoir My Romantic Love Wars is out as an ebook and we're releasing several how-to sex ebooks including my first writing venture

The Range of Vulva Styles

Mon, 09/24/2012 - 13:43
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Betty sketched these vulvas for the release of her international best seller Sex for One.

Back in the 70's, during the Genital Show & Tell ritual in her Bodysex workshops, Betty started identifying the "style" of each vulva using architectural styles as a reference.

Scarleteen and Planned Parenthood have reproduced these images for their educational content.  Knowing that there is a range of vulva types has healed millions of women and men.


Awakening the Clitoris

Thu, 12/29/2011 - 12:52
Submitted by Betty Dodson

After hearing countless sex histories from girls and women over the past four decades, I believe sexual repression begins the moment a parent or caregiver punishes a child’s natural curiosity for touching their own sex organs.

Society needs to understand that the health of each person’s sexlife rests upon childhood masturbation— the foundation upon which all of human sexuality is based. It’s very consistent that each client I see struggling with orgasms as an adult has no memory of masturbating in childhood or in their teens. The absence of this natural self-exploration interferes with the development of nerve pathways that carry positive sensations from our genitals to the pleasure center in the brain. This blocks or slows down the development of sexual release with orgasm.

How Are We Really Having Sex?

Fri, 10/08/2010 - 09:42
Submitted by Betty and Carlin

Indiana University released their national sex survey - we had to review their findings. It seems that the clitoris still reigns supreme.

Learn a New Orgasm: How to Upgrade Your Masturbation Technique

Sun, 05/16/2010 - 17:38
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Over the years, one frequently asked question comes from women and a few men who are unable to incorporate their current method of masturbation into partnersex.

Many have carried the same pattern of childhood masturbation over into adulthood and it's now the only way they can get off. Some are stimulating their genitals with one or both hands pressed between legs that are tightly squeezed together while lying face down on their tummies- not conducive to sharing orgasms with another person. Others are humping folded blankets, wooden floors, riding the arm of an overstuffed chair or pressing against hard counter tops.

My Courage & Willingness to Feel Pain Propelled Me into Pleasure & My Integrity

Fri, 03/16/2018 - 08:21
Submitted by Rebekah Dyana

What inspires the desire in a woman to take a big risk in her life, allow herself to be the most vulnerable she could ever be? Is it a voice inside that says to her there has got to be more to her existence than this, that to remain stagnant means a sort of death? Is it curiosity about what is possible that takes hold of her psyche and will not let go until she does something about it? Is it that the want of pleasure exceeds her tolerance of pain finally and maybe for forever? Or is it that to follow all the rules never got her her hearts desire or inspired her to even know what she really wanted anyway?

This Group Breastfeeding Pic is Everything

Wed, 03/14/2018 - 07:19
Submitted by Carlin Ross

This photograph by Trina Cary is so moving.  She was inspired to capture women - post partum nursing their babies - to shift the dialogue from one of tragedy and trauma to power.

The story behind how it all unfolded reminds me of Bodysex. Originally, the image was supposed to be on the beach with "clothed" moms then things changed:

"The best, most magical part was, once she got naked, one by one, two by two they all peeled their clothes off and ran together, embracing and loving each other. I couldn't wipe the smile from my face," she wrote on her blog. "I just love it when strangers come together and support each other's journeys and bodies. The whole evening was oozing with empowerment, support, and love."

Her Clit Cannot Be Touched

Tue, 03/13/2018 - 15:31
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr. Betty,

My wife has given me a mission - to find out of there is a solution to her problem: her skin is super sensitive to touch (anywhere on her body), to heat (her skin literally bubbles), and to cold (breaks out in rash).

Our sexual dilemma is this: her clit cannot be touched, either by me, or by herself. She said touching it is like sticking your finger in an electric socket. She also cannot be fingered, nor can she have dildos or vibrators inserted. No latex condoms. She once tried a Brazilian wax, and swelled up for days (she had to go to her doctor).

Because Bad Girls Say No

Tue, 03/13/2018 - 08:16
Submitted by Carlin Ross

We have this cultural myth that if we leave young girls in the dark about their bodies, deny the clitoris, and shame them against sexual experimentation (thank you virginity myth & slut stigma) that they will remain chaste and only have intercourse when they're married. The sexual double standard has always been about limiting female sexual activity.

New research has found that sexually experienced women - women who valued their sexual pleasure - were more likely to say no to unwanted sexual contact while inexperienced women were more likely to engage in unwanted sexual contact. In other words, bad girls say no and good girls say yes.

I Began My Veneration of Spring In the Pines

Thu, 03/08/2018 - 16:02
Submitted by bila kolbe

I think we are in for an early Spring according to my blooming crocuses. It’s that time of year when Mother Earth becomes pregnant with sun and rain, concocting a sumptuous panoply of color emerging from the dark clutches of Winter while she seduces us into a frenzy of surging hormones imaginably culminating in erotic adventures.

Bodysex in Harper's Bazaar

Thu, 03/08/2018 - 08:50
Submitted by Carlin Ross

We've had several media outlets cover Bodysex but yesterday's piece in Harper's Bazaar is the best one yet. 

The images are perfection especially the vulva diagram with the clitoris front and center.  When fashion magazines are publishing this sort of sex ed content, expressly for women, it makes you tingle.  We are at a tipping point and this new wave of feminism is a fucking tsunami.

This is my favorite passage because it speaks to our orgasm expectations.  Thank you, Suzannah, for putting yourself out there and getting it right: