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The Next Bodysex Workshops

Thu, 09/14/2017 - 07:01
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Taking a bodysex workshop is transformative.  We focus on overcoming negative body image and pleasure anxiety. 

Yes, they're done in the nude but it's not sexual.  Betty developed these workshops using the consciousness raising model of second wave feminism where women got together and shared their experience first person. You can read about past workshops to better understand the experience here (scroll down to read blog posts written by Carlin and our Bodysex leaders).

Whatever your race, orientation, upbringing, or country of origin, we have wounds to heal. All are welcome.

The next workshops will be held Fall 2017 on these dates. It's a two day workshop:

Bodysex Certification

Thu, 11/17/2016 - 15:00
Submitted by Carlin Ross

If you have any questions or would like to start the certification process, send an email to admin@dodsonandross.com

Mission:

Our goal is to certify women to hold their own Bodysex workshops so that the Betty Dodson method of self-love and sisterhood continues and expands to every country around the world.

When Betty and I first got together, we had this vision of a world map with red lights being illuminated every time someone clicked on D&R. Now we feel that those red lights represent women certified in the Betty Dodson method as each woman holds her own Bodysex workshops.

Our Latest Ebook & Vulva Anatomy

Wed, 02/13/2013 - 17:22
Submitted by Carlin Ross

I'm really focused on ebooks right now because it's the easiest way for us to get our information out globally and keep the lights on.  Betty's memoir My Romantic Love Wars is out as an ebook and we're releasing several how-to sex ebooks including my first writing venture

The Range of Vulva Styles

Mon, 09/24/2012 - 13:43
Submitted by Carlin Ross
Classical Vulva
Gothic Vulva
Modern Vulva
Renaissance Vulva
Baroque Vulva
The Heart Vulva

Betty sketched these vulvas for the release of her international best seller Sex for One.

Back in the 70's, during the Genital Show & Tell ritual in her Bodysex workshops, Betty started identifying the "style" of each vulva using architectural styles as a reference.  Here they are: Classical, Gothic, Modern, Renaissance, Baroque, and the Heart.

Scarleteen and Planned Parenthood have reproduced these images for their educational content.  Knowing that there is a range of vulva types has healed millions of women and men. 

Awakening the Clitoris

Thu, 12/29/2011 - 12:52
Submitted by Betty Dodson

After hearing countless sex histories from girls and women over the past four decades, I believe sexual repression begins the moment a parent or caregiver punishes a child’s natural curiosity for touching their own sex organs.

Society needs to understand that the health of each person’s sexlife rests upon childhood masturbation— the foundation upon which all of human sexuality is based. It’s very consistent that each client I see struggling with orgasms as an adult has no memory of masturbating in childhood or in their teens. The absence of this natural self-exploration interferes with the development of nerve pathways that carry positive sensations from our genitals to the pleasure center in the brain. This blocks or slows down the development of sexual release with orgasm.

How Are We Really Having Sex?

Fri, 10/08/2010 - 09:42
Submitted by Betty and Carlin

Indiana University released their national sex survey - we had to review their findings. It seems that the clitoris still reigns supreme.

Learn a New Orgasm: How to Upgrade Your Masturbation Technique

Sun, 05/16/2010 - 17:38
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Over the years, one frequently asked question comes from women and a few men who are unable to incorporate their current method of masturbation into partnersex.

Many have carried the same pattern of childhood masturbation over into adulthood and it's now the only way they can get off. Some are stimulating their genitals with one or both hands pressed between legs that are tightly squeezed together while lying face down on their tummies- not conducive to sharing orgasms with another person. Others are humping folded blankets, wooden floors, riding the arm of an overstuffed chair or pressing against hard counter tops.

Is He Pretending to be Heterosexual?

Fri, 12/08/2017 - 08:13
Submitted by Betty Dodson

hi Dr. Betty :)

Thank you, because you helped me through your website, a lot in exploring my sexuality while being in a very conservative society.

I have a question concerning my fiancee, my future husband, as our marriage is approaching, I began to discuss sex with him, and to try flirting, to see how the chemistry will be between us. He told me something really strange: the first porn movie he saw, it was by mistake on his friend's laptop, it was featuring a woman masturbating and stripping, he told me that this scene made him "vomit"!

Terje Brought Pansexuality to Us All

Thu, 12/07/2017 - 10:01
Submitted by Carlin Ross
Betty and Terje

This past week we lost a champion of sex and wonderful soul, Terje Gammelsrud. 

His magazine, Cupido, was everything I always wanted...beautiful, authentic images of sexual expression inclusive of gender, orientation, and preference.  I remember the first time I thumbed through Cupido.  It was a journey.  Sex acts and people of every persuasion titilated by senses and I found myself drawn to specific pages that I never thought I would find stimulating.  That was his art - he presented democratic sex that left the reader more compassionate and self aware than they were before experiencing his magazine.

Terje and Cupido were pansexual before we knew what that was...he was one of the greats. 

I Love Her Face

Tue, 11/28/2017 - 08:20
Submitted by Carlin Ross

I caught this recent photo of Isabella Rossellini and was totally enamored.  I love her wrinkles.  It's so rare that you get to see a natural face in Hollywood that she's a breath of fresh air.

As I start to see the signs of age on my face, there's this pull to plump out my lips and tighten the skin under my eyes.  I say, "fuck it".  The most feminist thing I can do is age. 

I'm a middle-aged mom looking at the next milestone: fifty and I'm going to celebrate every wrinkle.

I Don't Feel Sexual Attraction When I See People

Tue, 11/28/2017 - 08:14
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Betty,

I'm 26-year-old, and English is not my mother tongue, so forgive me for any mistakes in writing

I am writing you because I have a problem that I don't know how to identify and I don't know how to solve.

Puzzle's pieces (it took me one hour to finish this!)

1) I don't feel "sexual attraction" when I see people - men or women - I don't find them sexually attractive, some people are aesthetically more (physically or mentally) beautiful than others, and I'm able to fell in love (once in 1'000 years), with "butterflies in my stomach" and so on, but it's all here. No "sexual attraction". No desire. Nothing.

Betty Dodson Presents: My Orgasm

Tue, 11/21/2017 - 16:06
Submitted by Carlin Ross

We just released our latest dvd on amazon Betty Dodson Presents: My Orgasm.

There's over 3 hours of content. Five women share their masturbation practice, including me, and one lesbian couple shares their partner sex.

About 3 years go, I decided to film myself illustrating all of Betty's orgasm techniques after a messy break up. I figured pouring my heart into conscious masturbation and sharing the deepest parts of myself would be the healing I needed and it was - it was so hot that Betty and our cameraperson decided to masturbate on film too. Sex positive energy is contagious.

Bodysex is the Heart of Our Work

Thu, 11/16/2017 - 10:02
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Every season Betty and I talk about retiring the workshops so we can spend more time raising money for the foundation and planning an exhibition of Betty's art. Without fail, we come to the same realization: Bodysex is the healing and we need to train more women to be run groups.

Bodysex is the heart of our work.

You're an Inspiration to Me as a Young Woman, a Sexual Being, & One Day a Mother

Thu, 11/16/2017 - 09:13
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hello Dr. Betty,

I wanted to send you a note of thanks, but first let me give you some context.

I am the oldest of three daughters, who grew up in a home where our parents did not discuss sex. As a gifted individual, I was happy to learn of this topic on my own. At age 11, I began watching the fabulous videos made by you and Carlin.

You have both talked me through many first experiences before they were even a possibility. You've given me a confidence to advocate for myself and my pleasure. What's more, I now find myself encouraging my peers and others to advocate for themselves as well. I am saddened to find that too many of my 20-something year old friends are limited to the pleasure they receive from their partners, if there is any at all.