Betty Dodson with Carlin Ross

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Betty has looked at 1,000s and 1,000s of vulvas.  We decided to go through her sex coaching process blow by blow.  We started with genital show & tell and then got into the story of how Betty's mom had a porn pussy.  Highlights: sometimes she has to do a bit of grooming to get to the clit, dangling inner lips skip a generation, and you must claim your sex organ.  

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It's summer...time to take off your panties, let your pussy breathe, and listen to the story of Betty's Split Beaver Slideshow for Femininists & Sex Machine workshop at NOW's Sexuality Conference back in '73.   Oh, and we invented the Dodson & Ross pussy cup vibrator during the podcast ;)

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For 25 years, Betty Dodson ran nude masturbation workshops for women.  They were the outgrowth of group sex and feminist consciousness raising groups.  She was paid to listen to women's sex lives, view their genitals, and share their orgasms.  Having "sex with the natives" earned her a PhD in sexology.

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We started with why gay male porn is hot and hit on sexual power dynamics, how Betty became the first feminist pornographer, and whether feminist politics and sexual pleasure can exist side-by-side.

And then we had the idea for the Women's Sex Hit Squad.  Betty says I can wear leather thigh-high boots ;)

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In the 60's "hooking up" was called casual sex.  Betty thought that if men could have casual sex and orgasms then a woman could do the same.  Her decision to simply f*ck for fun but also have her own orgasm too, lead to her the enunciation of the feminist notion that a woman is responsible for her own orgasms.  Thank you clit stim with vaginal penetration.

Hedonism is the philosophy that pleasure is the highest good.  The year was 1966 and the sexual revolution had begun....listen to Betty describe her first orgy, how new panties are a must, and why we fantasize about Centaurs (half man/half horse). 

Here's the image: Betty in a gold trench coat, black laced-up boots, and a riding crop hailing a cab on the way to her debut art exhibition - The Love Picture show.  The inspiration was the amazing mutually-orgasmic sex she was having.  She just had to capture some of it. 

Betty's 80th Bday party was the event of the season.  It was "The Perveratti" at their finest: Nina Hartley, Lou Paget, Carol Queen, and Dana Dane to name a few.   Oh, and Nina Hartley bit my neck so I flashed her my cookie.  And then we came home to Phineas and Betty got jealous because he humped me :(

Betty took on genital shame back in the 70s when she presented her vulva slideshow at the NOW Sexuality Conference (1973).  Then, she took on genital shame once again in the 90s with her online genital art gallery.  It's time to embrace our sex organ and our "pussy power".  

Becky Chalker (author of the Clitoral Truth) stopped by Betty's and she told us the story of how the clitoris got lost.  The Greeks knew that men and women shared similar genital anatomy...Leonardo Di Vinci drew detailed illustrations of the clitoris...it wasn't until the 18th Century that the clitoris disappeared from the textbooks.

Our clitoral system is very complete.  We get erections just like you guys ;)

As Betty said, "it's about my finger on my clit".  Partners only enhance your orgasm because no one knows your sex organ better than you.  But we do love their fingers and there's nothing like staying at the opening ;)  Did I mention that Betty shared her new fantasy game?

It all started with our "Manual Skills" shoot (the video is live Manual Skills I & Manual Skills II).  Filming the basics on how to touch your vulva with an all female crew was intoxicating...then we went right into Halloween.  Listen to all the sordid details. 

Inspired by Christina's blog post, we all sat down to discuss how technology has changed our sex lives.  We live in an age where we can develop online personas that mask our true selves.  Of course, the conversation quickly turned to sex work, marriage, power dynamics, and going gay.

Betty's Bodysex groups were really formalized goddess worship and masturbation was the prayer.  We came up with a new tagline for the site, decided to start our own "philosophy",  and marvelled at the variation in sexual tastes.  

Betty is putting the finishing touches on her sex memoir which she almost released as a novel (The Sex Diary of Elizabeth Daughterson would have been the title).  But she knew she wanted to own her sex life.  From sexual freedom to the monogamy myth, we must acknowledge and welcome choice. 

Betty's life is her finest work of art.  When she self-published Liberating Masturbation, all she had was 15 cunt drawings.  She figured out the rest at the Castro with the help of several friends - who knew it would sell 1 million copies.  The conversation turned to talking dirty, Robocock, and the Boom Boom Room.  And the Cajun Sausage got a shout out ;)

Charlie came by Betty's so we decided to talk sex work.  We agreed that an orgasm is our divinity, sometimes you just want to be filled, and we're channeling our sexual energy into our website....which means we're having sex globally.

I asked Betty what would happen if all women were orgasmic - then they would know that they were ok.  Betty shared how she lost her virginity...her favorite sex game Just-Put-It-In-A-Little, and her first porn drawing in 8th grade. 

Christina came by and we recorded our most scandalous podcast to date.  We hit all the no nos: unprotected sex, how mothers make their sons into their lovers, college masturbation orgies, why the world fears female sexuality and our own cock obsessions.  And we're all getting diaphragms except Betty.

Rae Larson came by and I had to turn on the microphones.  She founded SISTER (Seattle Institute for Sexual Therapy, Education & Research) and after treating victims of sexual abuse decided to find out what makes a sex offender.  She discovered that no person has one exclusive sexual pattern and that she could treat sex offenders by helping them discover a healthy sexual pattern. 

Then the conversation turned to ephebephilia, women's cyclic sexual interest, reflex ovulation, and embracing sexual freedom.

Women had their own sexual revolution in the 60s that the feminists never acknowledged.  It was about clits, vibrators, and choosing how to have your own orgasm.  Becky Chalker, author of the Clitoral Truth, came by and we talked about all the lurid details.

Betty and I decided to sit down and talk about our favorite parts of Betty Dodson: My Sexual Revolution - our favorite parts of Betty's life.  Her memoir really is a blue print for how to live your life as an independent woman.  It's about how Betty decided what was right for her....and how you can do the same. 

Betty has watched 1000s of women orgasm in her Bodysex groups and her private sessions.  I asked Betty to break down her process step-by-step.  Her words of wisdom: keep going.  Women have an infinite capacity for pleasure.

Betty and I had the pleasure of interviewing Carol Downer - the mother of the abortion movement.  She was jailed...she was censored but she never stopped teaching women how to take control of their own bodies.  From contraception to menstrual extraction, she did it all. This is one of my favorite podcasts :)

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Sheila Shea is the woman who started the bodysex groups with Betty.  She was in town and I had to turn on the microphones.  From group sex to how they started the genital show & tell ritual, we hit it all.  And we all agreed: everyone liked Hustler's split beaver the best. 

Sarah Patterson from babeland and mysexprofessor.com came by and we talked about the top sex questions we get on the site: am I normal, am I having an orgasm and how can I orgasm during partner sex.   We also talked about our favorite lubes, the porn pop off and how Betty found her g-spot.

We needed to "flesh" out the group orgasm ritual so we broke out the microphones.  It's really all about social bonding between women.  Getting past modesty and genital shame - being comfortable in our own skin "titty to titty, pussy to pussy".  Ultimately, it's feminism.

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There's nothing abnormal about childbirth.  It's like an orgasm - your body knows what to do.  Jessica came by and we talked about birthing tubs and orgasmic birth...why you shouldn't cut the umbilical cord night away, why nursing is so important, and why you should avoid epidurals.

Resources:

Jessica's website

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Joan Price - author of Naked at Our Age - stopped by and we turned on the microphones.  Betty wrote the forward and we can't say enough wonderful things about this book. 

Sex changes as you age but sex is life long (what Joan calls "ageless sexuality").  And, as women, we can look forward to "menopausal zest".  Joan met the love of her life when she was 57....a time when you can break all the rules and discover your sexual fluidity. 

Naked at Our Age
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Joan's blog

Joan is a gem.

Barbara calls herself an orgasm expansionist - we sat down to talk about thinking off (remember that Strange Sex episode) - and how you can have energy and breath orgasms. 

There are an infinite number of erotic possibilities.  It's about breathing, squeezing your pc muscles, rocking your pelvis, using your imagination and making sound.

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We finally had a minute to sit down and talk about the bodysex documentary.  All the women experienced a transformation. The nudity...the group orgasm were a big healing for the cast and the crew.  Women must claim their sexual power.