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Looking for Treatment for My Lack of Orgasms

Betty Dodson's picture
Sat, 05/31/2008 - 23:00
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi,

My husband and I need some sort of therapy. We're only 26 and have been married 2 months. I don't have any desire to have sex and it's having an affect on our relationship. Most of the problem is me and I need to figure out what I can do to make things better. I also have never had an orgasm during intercourse in my life. I have United Healthcare insurance. Is this something that's covered by insurance? Typically how much is a session and how many sessions does one usually have?

Does Eating My Own Cum Make Me Gay?

Betty Dodson's picture
Sat, 05/31/2008 - 23:00
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Betty,

It is ok to eat your own cum after masturbating and does it make you gay?

I Only Orgasm by Rubbing Clit Against Things & Rocking Pelvis

Betty Dodson's picture
Sat, 05/31/2008 - 23:00
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hello Betty,

My childhood masturbation technique has left me a bit stunted. I am so used to only masturbating in one position that I have a hard time doing it in another position. When I was a child I learned that I would feel a great sensation when I had something in between my legs. Now when I want to masturbate, the easiest way for me is to put something underneath me, like if I put something on a chair that will stimulate my clitoris, and move my pelvis around in a certain way, I can get off in about 3 minutes. My problem is that now with a partner, I have a hard time getting turned on with him trying to stimulate me with his hand. How do I re-learn to masturbate so that I can come when he tries it with his hand? What can I do?

Can You Recommend A Toy For Men?

Betty Dodson's picture
Wed, 05/14/2008 - 23:00
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dr. Betty,

My husband and I have been married for 5 years now and we have a wonderful sex life. He has a very high need, like myself, and that's one reason he turned me on enough to marry him. He has recently changed jobs and has to be on the road a few days a week now. His need hasn't gone down at all since we've been married; in fact it's gone up since we've become comfortable with masturbating each other and oral sex thanks to your help. But he ejaculates less often now since he is away so regularly.

I Think My Penis Skin is Too Loose From Masturbation

Betty Dodson's picture
Wed, 05/14/2008 - 23:00
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hello doctor betty..

I am a 21 year old boy.. I started doing masturbation only a few months ago...before that I used to get done in my sleep only... and I learnt that masturbation in sleep is not healthy and my penis could get weak... so I started to do it my self... and now I find that the skin on my penis is getting loose (when my penis is not erected) at the tip.. What might be the problem..?? By my analysis I guess the problem is... once I started to masturbate... my skin had to expand when my penis is big... so after the penis becomes small all the expanded skin is accumulated at the tip!! This I could guess because when my penis is small only the skin accumulates. Once if it becomes a little big, it looks normal...so please answer my query doctor...

My Husband Watches Porn And It Makes Me Insecure

Betty Dodson's picture
Wed, 05/14/2008 - 23:00
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr. Betty,

My husband looks at beautiful women and porn a lot on the internet. We have a normal sex life. I'm 65 years old and attractive for my age and do just about everything sexual with him. He'll even look at women and porn after we have had sex. I'm insecure about this. I'm talking more than once a day. I told him I wouldn't spy on him any more but I can't help it!!

My Mind Loves Sex But My Body Doesn't

Betty Dodson's picture
Tue, 04/15/2008 - 19:00
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Please Dr Betty save me!

I have been marred for nine years. I have three boys, I have had sex five time in all that time and that's the times I got my lovely boys. The last time I had sex with my husband was five years ago the day I got pregnant with my last boy. Since then I haven't had sex with my husband or any body else. My mind likes sex but my body doesn't like it. I have never had an orgasm.

I have Vulva Pain

Betty Dodson's picture
Mon, 04/14/2008 - 23:00
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty

Firstly may I say many thanks for providing such an upfront, honest and women orientated service; in a world where sex is supposidly everything and everywhere it becomes aparent very quickly that any sexual problem leaves you very far out in the cold. I have just seen your video given on masturbation here in the UK and descovered that I, like one of you´re clients suffer from being stuck in my teenage ways. (I am 28). Although I'm sure this is related to the problem, it’s not why I’m contacting you.

How Can I Overcome My Past and Enjoy Sex?

Betty Dodson's picture
Mon, 04/14/2008 - 23:00
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr. Betty,

I've read your books and visited your website for years and I appreciate how sex positive you are for men and women. I'm also aware of your experience as a feminist and therapist and I hope that you can bring both to bear on two questions I have. I'm a thirty-something, heterosexual, male and a survivor of childhood sexual abuse. Because of my abuse I tend to shy away from physical contact until there is a great deal of trust between me and my partner. Even then, it is challenging for me to enjoy sex fully and I often cannot engage in it.