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Dear Dr. Betty,
I love this website but am greatly saddened by a glaring oversight regarding sexual abuse. It isn’t even among the “topics” section... I understand it’s an uncomfortable, painful topic that might seem rather “anticlimactic” (couldn’t resist!) to the whole discussion on orgasms. Still, we need to start realizing that sexual abuse, however long ago incident(s) might have occurred, they have a profound. PROFOUND! effect on our psychological well being, and as such can have incredibly far reaching affects on our general health - mentally, physically, and yes, even spiritually.
Today was my second time actually climaxing (I think). I had asked you about it before and you told me to explore my body, which I did. I found out that the only way (so far) that I can climax is through clit stimulation. Both of the times I have had to watch porn and it does take me a little while. The thing is that I can feel when I'm about to climax, and it's great. But the actual climax is a bit odd.
I'm not sure if it's meant to be like this or if it's not actually the climax and I haven't finished yet. What happens is I rub my clit and then all of a sudden it gets really sensitive and I can't touch it anymore.
I am still so happy because I have finally figured out what works for me, but at the same time I just can't tell if that is the climax or not.
Hi Dr. Betty,
I'm so glad I found your website - I know if anyone will finally understand and be able to help me it is you!
I consider myself a person with a very healthy sexual appetite and enjoy sex with my partner of 6 years (although its very infrequent - long story, he works in another country.) However, even though I enjoy being intimate with him, whenever he penetrates me, I have some discomfort. It almost feels like he is bumping something - my partner is of a good size, but I have had this problem with men before him (although I don't remember if I had these sensations of discomfort with "not so well-endowed men) and I recently felt this discomfort while inserting a tampon too!
Hi betty ,
I'm a young 18 year old male who needs to know if my sexual prefrence is a problem. I seem to ne very attracted to older women. It's basically the the cub cougar concept . For some reason older women just seem to attract me alot, but you rarely see a young man with a women who has quite a few years on him together. I would really appreciate if you could make a video on this topic because I belive that it would be a good topic to discuss.
Also is it a problem that girls around my age don't turn me on but older women do ? - thankyou and have a great day
Dear Dr. Dodson,
I am very passionate about the topic of male circumcision. I was persuaded to be circumcised for hygienic reasons after reaching sexual maturity. Probably due to the doctor's own ignorance I was never told of the consequences of this procedure. I learned on my own that the procedure has been detrimental to my ability to be sexually stimulated and therefore experience sexual pleasure. I have been long-suffering in demoralized at having lost a significant part of my sexual ability.
I am in a loving and beautiful and sexy marriage with an incredible man who also happens to have a physical disability. He uses a wheelchair and cannot walk, but he has full sensation in his body with the ability to get erect and cum like any other able-bodied man. We are very passionate about each other, but because of his physical limitations, our sex (intercourse) has become repetitive.
There are only two positions that are possible for us. I want to infuse some excitement into our sex life. We do a lot of foreplay, which is great, but I was wondering if you can point me in the direction of some resources where we can learn how to take our intercourse to the next level.
Hi Dr. Betty,
As I write to you with tears in my eyes I realize that my sexuality and my urge to be sexual has gone EXTREMELY down. If I would have seen how I am now compared to a year ago, masturbating everyday and being orgasmic, I'd be disappointed. Let me put it this way: Lent fucked me over. Now being not very religious my boyfriend and I wanted to refrain from sexual activity for as long as we could to build up the desire again and be more intimate with each other. Over the course of those 40 days the desire was built up immensely and I am grateful that it did allow us to be intimate. However, when day 41 came I was not surprised by the fact that I did not orgasm. I was thinking "okay well it'll be next time or I just have to get back into it."
I have what might be considered a weird experience growing up but I can't get a straight answer from the few friends I've asked. Some will think it is gross. My penis is a generous length and because I was also an early bloomer, there was a period of time I could easily reach it with my mouth. Not so now that I'm older as my body is in better proportion. Needless to say, I used to suck myself off a lot during puberty and got very good at oral because of it. I used to masturbate with an older friend. Just the normal play and mutual exploration stuff.
Dear Dr. Betty,
I consider myself to have developed into quite a liberal minded person through a number of life experiences.
I have a very sweet male friend who is polyamorous and we have shared an intellectual connection for a while now. For some time I have thought that monogamy could be the only way for me, because I felt like I had been genetically programmed to pair bond with someone, and I shared these thoughts with him.
Dear Dr. Betty and Carlin,
It is so odd for me to write you after, what seems to me, a long friendship! I found your website years ago, when I first started masturbating. I do ultimately have a question for you regarding a sexual partner, however, I would love to take the opportunity to thank you, from the bottom of my vulva!