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I've had this on my mind as of late and I'm going to try to put these feelings into words as simple as possible.
I'm 23 year Aspie old woman who has had both relationship and non-relationship penetrative sex - and I disliked both. I was in a one-year relationship with a wonderful guy I lost my virginity to and the sex was kinda unsatisfying. We were both inexperienced so it makes sense that the sex wasn't spectacular. He even had a difficult time staying hard and ejaculating. Eventually I grew tired and decided to clock out of the relationship, despite the fact that I still care for him. During that time, I started talking to another guy at school, who was the total opposite of my BF. He was much more sexually experienced but the sex itself was so painful.
Hi Dr. Betty,
I don't know whether I'm asexual or what's up with me. I'm a 24 year old girl. I can watch porn, get turned on and rub my clit until I orgasm, but whenever I've tried sexual things with someone else I just don't get turned on, if anything their bodily fluids (cum, saliva) disgust me and no amount of foreplay can get me wet
I fantasise about doing stuff with guys (and sometimes girls) and find them aesthetically pleasing to look at in images, but the real life thing doesn't do anything for me
What's up with me?
If you are OK without a sex partner then stay single As long as you are masturbating and enjoying orgasms you are not considered asexual. Instead you are a selfsexual which is a valid lifestyle. Enjoy!
Hi Dr Betty!
I am 18 years old and worried about the damage I may have done to my vagina. I discovered I could pleasure myself at 3 years old, by rubbing my clitoris against a sofa arm, and now regularly masterbate using the corner of a wooden desk. I am aware that this is really unhealthy as it is such a harsh movement, and I am worried that I have desensitised my clitoris or damaged it. Furthermore, as I tend to rub on one side, one of my labia majora has become much larger and more stretched than the other, giving my vulva a lopsided look (although I know vulva's come in all shapes and sizes I feel like mine is not normal as my masterbation has unnaturally stretched it).
Hi Betty, first of all I want to say thank you for your work on this site here. It have been interesting coming in here and read about several topics around female masturbation and sex life.
But I was wondering with many people struggling some sort of mental illness like depression and loneliness (the list go on). And how these things do effect sex life and masturbation. It's just a topic I haven't read so much about.
I personally don't use any anti-depresant medicines, but these feelings and moods can really have bad effect on my life (including my masturbation obviously).
Hello! Thanks for your time.
I don't know how to respond to people about this. I know the insult isn't justified, but I do like sleeping with multiple guys. People say I put myself at risk too much. Not just about STDs but also for pregnancy. The funny thing, is that I risk being preggo much less often than lots of ppl in relationships do! Like if I hookup a few times a month vs most people who have sex with their partner at least a few times a week.
They say it's different though, since they know each other if a baby happens. But I feel like the overall consequence is the same. Plus I usually take less risk, I'm on BC, use condoms, and usually ask him to pullout even with a condom on. I know plenty of couples that just solely rely on the pill.
I have been masturbating since a very young child, and thanks to you have progressed from rubbing up against surfaces to touching myself with porn to now preferring my own fantasies with some coconut oil and penetration - these orgasms I have on my own are great! I am 19 years old and am in my first serious relationship. My boyfriend and I have been having sex for 2 months now, and so far has been a good experience.
I am a 33 old woman who began her masturbation journey after turning thirty. Thanks to the information available on your website, your inspiring books and youtube channel with Carlin, I think I have made steady progress and can now enjoy orgasms using clitoral stimulation alone. I am also able to slowly slide Betty's Barbell in and out of my vagina during the process without any apprehension or discomfort and though it does feel nice when the larger blob makes contact with the vaginal entry point, it is pretty uneventful once the barbell is almost completely inside me.
Is that normal? What does one have to do to enhance pleasure using the barbell?
Hi betty or Carlin or just anyone who could help,
I wrote you before when I first got diagnosed with my vaginal prolapse. and I just wanted to say thank you for the help, but im still so alone and lost. and that wasnt even part of my stupid problems it was just a bump on my horribly paved road. more and more problems keep stacking up and Im in pain and suffering to the point where I dont want to even know what to do. I just feel destroyed and broken. I could really just use some kind of help.
Hi Dr. Betty,
I'll tell u my story but first my problem is I have dark labia majora and black very large redundant labia minora P.S. I'm a virgin arabic girl engaged and get married in july. It rubs in the panties and I have to put them inside using my fingers everytime I pee or change my panties they look disgusting and very ugly. I consulted 4 different drs 3 women 2 in usa both of them recommended labiaplasty and 2 in my arabic country. 1 of them recommended surgery and one silenced after examining me for a minute and then said get married have sex first and see if u satisfied or not. He told me these surgeries aren't recommended to virgins because it may cause mutilations or being cold sexually afterwards.what is ur opinion ?
So I am trying to find out if my hymen is still intact I took some pictures but I am still unsure, as I can't see the opening but I can feel it, I stopped using tampons and have not had sex however when I try to spread the minora labia especially going down to the perineum it feels like am pulling or stretching something and I feel kind of sore after wards even with my legs wide open.Thank you for your time your feedback is well anticipated and appreciated.
P.S Tampons did hurt the first two times and they did hurt a little less every other time especially taking them out could you advise me please.