Betty Dodson with Carlin Ross
Better Orgasms. Better World.
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Betty's Vaginal Barbell |
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My Romantic Love Wars: A Sexual Memoir - EBOOK EDITION |
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Betty Dodson's Bodysex Workshop DVD |
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Betty Dodson Liberating women one orgasm at a time |
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Carlin Ross Sex, Politics & More Sex |
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Eric Amaranth Sex life coaching, real life erotica, and wellness |
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Lawrence Lanoff Reality Hacker. Sex Educator. Geek. |
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Liandra Dahl Sex Documentarian |
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LilithLand Women, Sex, Culture & Relationships |
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cajun sausage Lovin' Dr. Betty since 1996! |
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Christina Cicchelli Professional Pervert |
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Danny Wylde Male. Libra. Whore |
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Dr. Lulu History & the Material Culture of Sex |
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Emily and Ju Queer love |
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Eric Francis Astrology & Adventure |
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Jenn Parenthood. With Cursing |
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Jessica Kramer Liberating Birth |
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jexhibitionism |
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Kasini Poet. Educator. Catalyst. Mother. |
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LesleyS Redefining my sexual self after babies. |
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Logan Levkoff sexologist, sex educator, intellisexual, author, mom |
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Marisa Black Finding room for all of me |
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Marylou Naccarato Learn how to raise your level of “Sexability” |
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Palesa Art + Sex + Media + Empowerment |
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Princess What would my mother say? |
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richard chilton "Live as if you were to die tomorrow, Lean as if you were to live forever.... |
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Solo Sexualist |
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VirginMonoblogger Thought all virgins were the same? Think again. |
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WildOrchid A selfsexual, toy loving, possibly bisexual total virgin |
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Hi,
I've never been a big fan of oral sex, but my current boyfriend really seems to like it so I want to get better at it. Problem is, I cannot seem to "hide" my teeth well and hurt him. He is very thick, and I do not have a big mouth. Please give me as many tricks as you can!!!
Thanks!
Dear M,
Hello Dr. Betty,
I have been reading the wealth of information on your site for some time now and it has proved invaluable to my understanding of my wife's needs, has increased the quality of our sexual relationship and has improved the maturity of my views on what constitutes a mature, healthy sexual relationship. It's like free therapy and I thank you.
Hi Dr. Betty,
My boyfriend is a god, he's great with his hands, great with his mouth and everything else. He gets off making me feel good. He's amazing! But I've never had an orgasm, every time I get close I get freaked out, if I'm masturbating, I stop, if it's my boyfriend, I end up fighting him off. The feeling of getting there is already so intense that my body freaks out before climax and I have to stop. Please help.
Dear L,
Hi Betty.
Recently I've rediscovered the joy of sex, and now I want to put an effort in to trying to get an orgasm, which I still haven't had at the age of 34, not on my own and not with a guy.
A few days back I was masturbating, using only my fingers. I had 1 finger inside my vagina pressing up towards the g-spot and making sideways motions, and the other hand was rubbing my clitoris. After a while I felt this warm and burning feeling in my vulva, my feet were moving like drumsticks and it was really good, but I didn't feel any contractions. My hands and fingers at that time were so tired that I couldn't control them properly anymore so I had to stop. Would you say that this was close to an orgasm and that if I just had continued I probably would have got an orgasm?
K
Hello Betty,
Before I start off, I must say that I am really enjoying everything that you and all your readers and contributors have put out on here.
It's great to get some frank talk about sex and masturbation.
My question is this, and I'm sorry if it's a repeat of another person's question. I have 2 boys, aged 6 and 3 (as of next month). My oldest son seems to constantly have his hands down his pants. For the most part, I think that he just puts them there because it's a comfortable way to sit, and I simply remind him to take his hands out of his pants. There are other times, though, that he has his pants down and is full-on masturbating, usually while watching tv.
I used to be able to orgasm with my hands quite reliably and always with a vibrator. UP until my mid-forties I always used masturbation to reach orgasm with a partner. Oral sex brought it about on occasion but never reliably (the last time I came with oral sex was at Burning Man 1998!), though I can get very close this way, and also during intercourse, it seems I hang on the threshold forever.
Dear Dr. Betty,
I am a 27 year old woman who has not had an orgasm since I was 15. I don't know what happened. There was a guy that I liked and he attempted to give me oral sex. All was well until the moment where I was about to release and I somehow stopped myself. I tried everything but, nothing seems to work. Now I have a boyfriend who wants more than anything to please me. The first time he went down on me all was well but, I did not cum.
Is there something wrong with me?
Dear E,
Dr. Betty,
I first of course want to say that your website has changed my life and I am so thankful for the work that you guys do liberating womens' sexuality (reading it made me realize I'm not a freak or unnatural to believe what I've always believed about sex).. it's really a beautiful thing.
Hi Betty,
I was referred to you by a friend of my boyfriends after a conversation we had last week. I am 21 and i have been active for 3 years, and up until now i have not had sex with anyone who could even get me close to climax, nor have i done much self loving. Since me and my now BF have started having sex he hasnt gotten me close a few times, just as i have myself the few times ive been alone, but every single time the same thing happens to me when i think i reach climax. Suddenly all the tension building up in my body releases and everything happening feels really akward to me and i get sensitive but it doesnt feel good at all. What is causing this and how can i stop it so that i can actually finish my orgasm and come?
Dear B,
Hi Betty,
First of all thank you. Thank you for inspiring a 20-year-old young woman from Denmark. You inspire me to inspire other young women to gain more sexual self confidence. Often when I claim to be a feminist I am confronted with prejudice: "that is so 70s!", "so you hate men?" or people just laugh. Young people. I remember once in high school, a girl told that she would wash her boyfriend's boxers, if she had given him a handjob or they had gotten dirty from sex in another way. Apparently because it was her fault. So I asked "does he wash your panties everytime they're dirty from you getting wet?" and the whole class laughed. Apparently that was different...
